I just recently even admitted to myself I was lesbian. I have been in therapy for nearly a year for other issues and recently we started discussing my sexuality. I had never even said I was bisexual at that point, but when I did I held onto it so tightly because I didn't want to let myself know I was a lesbian. I just came out to my husband who was supportive, but has anyone else had a difficult time coming out to themselves? If so, I would like to get your perspective.
I'm 28 and I don't think I've fully accepted myself. For me, I always felt like the odd one out and then for me to be gay, I just felt like that was something else that made me different. I personally think coming out to yourself is the hardest part of it and once you have found that acceptance of yourself then things will get easier. I went to a councillor for a while and she kind of made me realise that sexuality is just one part of many that makes me up as a complete person, and that although I always thought about my sexuality, to others they tend to see a bigger picture and notice the other parts that make you up.
I'm 25 and I also recently accepted to myself that I am a lesbian. It's hard to come to terms with who you really are, but once you accept yourself and understand that you are still you everything becomes a little easier. I think that the best lesson I got from accepting myself and embracing my sexuality is that being a lesbian is only a small part of who I am and what makes me-me.
Welcome to EC! I had a lot of difficulty at first, a lot of it guilt because I'm married and felt like I should have figured it out long ago. The struggle is part of your growth process. It sucks a lot of the time, but then you get a moment of clarity and "a-ha" about some part of your life, and it all starts to become worth it, a little bit a time. Be patient with yourself. (&&&)
Being married and a lesbian is difficult. I have emotional ties, but I don't know what all of this means. I guess it's one day at a time now.
