Hello, As many of you guys would have guessed this is another advise thread for comming out. I made a new years resolution for comming out, but the more I think about it, the more I have doubts. I have two great friends that know that I'm gay, but of course they have to be good friends and not tell others. I guess I just want to avoid confrontation from anyone. I kind of wish they would of told others that I'm gay because I honestly don't care about what others at school think of me but, the fear of my sister and mother is what is making me go back in to my "hidie-hole". I just would like some ideas or ways to come out. -Tommy-
Are you looking to come out to your family only, or also your school? As for the fam, if you're afraid of face to face I suggest you write down (in letter form) everything you want to say and sit your family down and read it. It's always best to be a face to face thing with the family, so they can see how hard it is for you and you can feel them out. As long as you're sure they'll take it at least decently, then go for it! I hope you do!
Then I'd go with what I originally said. I mean writing it down ensures that you're not sitting there stumbling for the words, and it sort of takes pressure off of you because you're just reading for them and you can get through it all without interruptions.
Well since you'll be reading it aloud it doesn't matter tooo much. But maybe "to those I love." Something original that shows that you really care about your family and that no matter who you are that won't change.
Ok here is my letter what do you guys think... When I was a little boy I realized that I was different. This difference has made my life miserable. So I made a idiotic mistake in september, I couldn't take it anymore so the "glass shelf" cut was nothing more, but a failed suiside attemped. After I woke up and realized that I wasn't dead I knew I must face my fears. I can't take the easy way out anymore. So today I'm going to confirm what many of you already know, I'm gay. I can't keep lying to you or myself anymore. I am who I am and there is no changing it. I just hope you will accept me for who I am and understand and forgive me for all of my lying.
Make sure you give your parents some PFLAG materials with the letter. http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=594&srcid=416 It will help them understand what being gay is all about.
