Coming out as questioning and being judged

If you're coming out as "questioning", nobody else can really say you aren't questioning. It's not like you proclaim to be a master chef, but really you like to microwave meals. You're questioning, so if you want to come out and say that, do so. You don't have to prove it to anybody, and if you have to prove it, then you probably don't want to involve or invite these people in your life -- they aren't doing you any good.

Also, and take this to heart:

Each time you buckle to somebody's remarks or criticism, you're giving them the illusion that they were right. You don't have to parade around in all rainbows and shout "I'M NOT STRAIGHT!", and honestly, you shouldn't have to. If and when you feel like informing others of your sexuality, do so.

Don't give those who would disrespect you power. Take it back and live your life.

 

One day you will get to a state of peace, but right now you have to look at the cards you've been dealt.

You won't be able to have a satisfying relationship until you are satisfied with yourself. This means going with what you find attractive and appealing now, and seeing how it works out. If you like something, great, investigate, maybe explore. If you don't, okay, just back away and resume.

It isn't if you look queer, it's if you are. Basically, you say something, stick with it if it's the truth, explain if you need to ("I'm not straight, okay? Let's leave it at that."), but don't waste a lot of time on it if others want to question and antagonize, it isn't worth it. This is how you develop confidence, and confidence is what will make you attractive -- this is when you decide who to pursue, be it you making a move or them, and building relationships, be they friendship, supportive allies, or more.

You're questioning, okay. Be confident about that, don't worry about it (easier said than done, I know), focus on what you can right now. School, work, hobbies, associates, even something more fun like wardrobe or activities. Your questioning will, eventually, become a little more clear, so invest in yourself so when that clearance comes, you'll be in better shape, thus more appealing to make use of that realization. You will feel better, too.

You're very critical, and that can be annoying to deal with. However, it's the sign of a powerful mind, so I'm most confident you can do this.

 

Dear you aren't the only LGBT person in history who doesn't necessarily fit the "stereotype" that the ignorant masses assume a LGBT person should look, sound or/and act. Part of coming out is coming into terms that YES people will ask, people will wonder, people will prude. What exact questions do you believe you are incapable of answering?

*Are you LGBT? YES.
*But you don't look butch--- Is there some law that queer women should look butch?
*Maybe it's just a phase or maybe you just haven't found the one--- And maybe your "straight" is just a phase too, and you just haven't found "the one" (to turn you).
*Maybe your just trying to be special? I am special. So are you and everyone else.

Part of coming out, growing into who you are is facing all of these. You play so much worst case scenarios in your head you're beginning to believe that is the only way reality will play out. For all we know people won't give a damn about your sexuality. Contrary to what we make of it our sexuality is just one part of our being, we are multi faceted beings. If you continue to run every time a "scary thought" pops up in your head, then you might as well stay in the closet. If you go about your life you will realize there are bigger problems that what other people think of you. Stop living your life based on how others perceive you, if you do you'll end up miserable.