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Why does coming out make me feel crappy?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by sporn, Sep 10, 2015.

  1. sporn

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    I came out to someone today. She's fairly liberal and accepting and I didn't get a bad reaction. I felt a bit heavier and more tired after I came out to her. The conversation went like this.

    Me:*talking about dating*
    Her: I think you should date creative types because you're creative.
    Me: I get along pretty well with my music teacher, but even she admits she's not creative. I would never date her because she's too old and married with kids.
    Her: Can I ask you a personal question? Do you like men or women?
    Me: It doesn't matter to me.
     
  2. Mickey 29

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    The first time I came out it felt instantly great and also pretty crappy. (my circumstances were a bit different.) For me, leading up to coming out to someone always felt crappy, then after I did, it felt great. Even if the response wasn't that great.

    Did you guys get a chance to talk any further about it?
     
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