I can't do this anymore. one side of me is saying "don't tell anybody, you're safe where you are. If so you'll ruin you life!" and the other "don't deal with this stress any longer! Imagine how different you'll look once you come out late.... DO IT NOW AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT JUDGEMENT LATER!" I HAVE TO MAKE A CHOICE NOW! The only reason the closeted side is winning is because i live with homophobic family. I've seen post where some people's homophobic family accepts them but....... coming out to my family is like gambling my life. OMG i'm so stressed. If i do i want to tell my mom first. If i had close friends or a best friend i'd tell the but i don't have any. just a whole lot of school friends. I dunno guys this may be a situation i can't get out of.:dry:
How homophobic is your family? Would they kick you out of the house if you came out? Because, if so, I suggest not coming out until you are financially independent from your parents. If not, however, do you think coming out would be a good thing both for you and your family? Do you think your parents would accept you, given time?
As long as coming out will bring NO disadvantages to the table, do it. But now take another look at that 'NO' and rethink it.
No matter if your 15 or 51 it's not easy to tell your mother your Gay. I agree with the person that said you should tell her before she finds out. Maybe, just maybe she'll shock you. When I told my mother she was fine but not overly so. Now we talk about being Gay as it's part of our everyday conversation. She knows I'm happy and content, and that makes her happy. No matter if we're 15 or 51 we're still her little boy.
I told my counselor i was confused and she said we can talk about it whenever i want. So that's sorta coming out. Not 100% sure. Because i really think i'm pan or bi. I just know i'm not gay or straight.
