Cant tell male friends!

Yes I know that feeling exactly yes 100% Been there done that!
Well what I would do well I did with emy first friend is write it down on a peice of paper.
After that it is was a massive lift of my shoulders and I told the other just as if I was speaking in a normal convo.
Hope it helps.
Regards,
George

 

A lot of friends who are anti-homosexuality often change their views when someone close to them comes out. A good friend will try to understand and embrace your courage to tell them.

A good test is to bring up the subject of homosexuality with them and see what they say. But still even if they come out with a negative comment it's very likely their views will change over time, once they link you, their friend, to a concept they don't like, it's much more likely they'll change their view on homosexuality because they know you're a good guy.

Good luck with telling them if you do so, Sandy (*hug*) It usually goes better than expected.

 

Something i did was trying complete opposite spectrums, one person was very open anyway and the other guy was a real mans man football etc. You may be surprised that if they know you well enough that it is ok, however be prepared just in case.

The first was absolutely fine with everything the second guy basically said that he didnt understand the whole gay thing but respected me as a person and didnt care.

Having said that I havent told all my male work colleagues yet so i sympathise with you.

1974

 

If they're true friends, they'll realise the struggle you've been through and that will help them embrace your sexuality and you for telling them If thy're really stubborn enough not to try and accept or understand you, they're really not the type of person who makes a good friend anyway. But the chance of that happening is still slim. I know it's daunting, but you have to do this if you feel you have to do it. (*hug*)

 

With binvisible on that one, i know that i am happiest with the people that know and stressed with people who don't. You can only be yourself.

 

Well its hard i guess since its the same sex and all and it will feel harder, but i told some of my friends that are guys and they treat me no different =] if they are your friends they should be ok with it =]

 

Agreed, and I'm sure a lot of us can attest to this. One of my male friends explained it to me like this (After we were engaged in this exact situation): Guys especially will say rather disparaging things about gays because they assume that other males are straight and have also been conditioned to dislike homosexuality. And often, very few guys actually do have anything against homosexuality.

 

For me it was easiest to tell my male friends online instead of face to face, to avoid some awkwardness...

 

Yeah, I agree with the letter form to a certain extent. I would not think it wise to hand a friend a letter and then run off, or leave it for them to find. I personally think it'd be good to hand them the letter to read while you are with them.

and in some situations, your presence and emotions are what make the difference between certain people accepting you or just abandoning you altogether. It's sad, but many people walk that fine line. . .

 

I Don't Think It Matters How You Tell Them. If They Are Your True Friends They Will Understand And Support You. I Went Through The Same Thing, When I First Figured Out I Was Bisexual It Was Easy For Me To Tell My Guy Friends But Really Hard For Me To Tell My Female Friends, Especially Because My Best Friend Was A Girl At That Time, A Streight Girl And I Didn't Know How She Felt About That Kind Of Thing.

Well When I Told Her She Stuck By Me, Well For The Most Part. She Made It Awkward To Be Around Eachother But She Was Still There For Me When I Needed Her.

Just Come Straight Out And Say It And If They Have A Problem With What You Tell Them Then They Aren't Worth Your Time.

 

Let us know how it goes!

And, btw, it does, exponentially : )