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Let go from one job, fired from the other

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by katmando, Jan 6, 2009.

  1. katmando

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    Nothing really to do with being gay. but a little sad. could use some support.

    Its a little "form" because I posted what happened on myspace page as well, and do not feel like changing it.


    When I post bulletins I usually try to write positive stuff, like how I do in races and such. I do have a bad habit of beating up on myself, but the last few days have not been so great.


    Looking back its okay that I did just okay at the 5k. Not every race is going to be good. I was sore and over doing it.


    Anyway, I started a new job for a family as a Manny or Nanny. The situation was odd the mother was not in the picture she lives in Hawaii. No father either. He lived just with the grandma, no grandpa either. They actually had a live in au pair/nanny and 6 weeks ago the ladies mother died in a motorcycle accident and she quit.


    When I did the 5k race over the weekend. I won a spiderman raffle ball. I thought of Drake and I emailed the grandma and she told me Drake would love it. But she told me, that the nannny service had gotten back to her and they found a replacement. Like when I got the job, she told me it was mine. I was not a sub. I think the nanny service came through quicker then she thought.


    The other nanny was a live in Nanny, and I guess the new one is a live in one to. All her nannies our from out of the country. I keep trying to figure out if I did anything wrong, but really I thought I did an excellent job. Also in her email she said the nanny has sick time/and vacation, and they could use me as a back up. I emailed her and told her no thanks. I am not Mary Wilson(didn't say that) I do not think this is a case of anything aganist me. Its just cheaper to have a live in nannny, and the grandma is free to go when she pleases.


    Okay #2

    I work for another family and there son is autistic. I have been working for them since August. I am fired, just waiting for the call. I usually pick the boy up at the school bus after school, near his house.. Today I tried to sneak in a quick nap in before I left. I did, but I overslept, 15 minutes too late I should of set my alarm. I called the dad right away, and picked up the boy at his school, not the bus. I arrived at the school about 30 minutes late. I missed the bus was before, because I overslept.


    When the father came home he was pretty angry with me. Can not say I blame him. He is right in everything he said. He said I am dealing with a human life and he does not know if this situation will work out. I was honest I have had a change in medication and have been a little drowsy, I told him, he said it doesn't matter there is, NO EXCUSE!. He is right. I goofed up and made a mistake, its a little disappointing I will lose my job. But its TRULY understandable on his part. He needs to know where his son is. The over sleeping did happen once before, so he did give me a second chance.


    Its just the beginning of the new year, so hopefully all the bad shi* wll happen early.


    Still looking forward to doing the half marathon this weekend

    I feel a little like mr mr belvedere, right now :slight_smile: WESLEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Justin
     
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  2. Jim1454

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    Hi Justin. Sorry to hear that you're having a rough time. As I said to someone at work today, the new year is great because you have 12 whole months to fix whatever you screw up today!

    Good luck in your job search. And good luck in the run this coming weekend.

    Jim
     
  3. BitterEdge

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    Hope all goes well for the job search. Don't be too hard on yourself, we all make mistakes. And the father is right to be angry and concerned, but maybe he'll give you a 2nd chance.
     
  4. katmando

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    Well, he did call last night and he asked me to come back today. He said we need to talk where we are going to from here. There is a chance he will let me go, but there is a chance he will give me another shot.

    In a few hours I will know
    Justin
     
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    Good luck. Let us know.
     
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    I hope you get another chance Justin. Funny, I used to have a parent who forgot to pick up her kid from school all the time. She got mad at me and pulled her kids after I said something to her about it. Everybody can make a mistake once but she did it over and over again.
     
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    I felt like I handled the situation the best way I could of. He talked to me and the guy is very straight forward and honest he is an english teacher at the high school I use to go to. He told me he reallly thinks that I have helped him out a lot and did a good job with Nathan.

    He said that him and his wife were really conflicted. But he said he needs to make sure that someone is always there to pick up his child. Its not like I did this all the time. I did it twice, but twice was enough. Its a little pathetic, that I fell asleep during the day. I think some had to do with medication changes. I haven't worked there a long time, I started in late August.

    He asked me if I would work till sometime during the middle of next week, so they could find someone else. I told him I would think about it. He also told me they would give me a severance pay of $100 after my last day. Not exactly sure what severance pay is but I think that sounds right. And he told me he would give me a good reference, I never asked. The man is fair and honest. I told him I would think about it.

    I thought about it, and I called him back I said I would agree if he could promise me that I could work till the 16th of Jan. He agreed. He said if he finds someone else, he would tell them it would be after the 16th. But its not exactly easy to find people either. Nathan is autistic, while it is mild it does present some challenges. I told him I know I did have some infractions, but like he said overall I did a good job. He agreed and he said him and hs wife were conflicted on the issue. I told him if to please keep in mind in the next 2 weeks, that they may want to give me another chance. He said, he would, and he sounded genuine.

    While via message board I sound like I am handling it. I am very disappointed and bummed, mostly in myself.

    So as of right now I am canned, but I am driving the little boy to the clinic tomorrow for OT, and speech. I also had to call and remind him to leave the copays out on the counter.

    My cousin said most people would quit on the spot. I did this move for a few reasons he asked me to, and maybe he will reconsider. The downside is it does give him sometime to find someone else.

    Life is weird
    Justin
     
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    I'd say you've handled yourself VERY well Justin! Requesting a longer period to stay on is reasonable - they should either fire you immediately or give you a decent termination period. So that was fair. And bringing up the fact that you'd consider staying on after that if they change their minds was also a very good / assertive thing to say.

    Now - get yourself a couple of alarm clocks! Don't let it happen again - EVER!