bully at school

Have you tried talking to your teacher about it?

 

The best things to do would to inore him and tell the teacher.

I would bite back, but it's not the best thing to do.

 

You can definitely ask your teacher for help, even without telling her that your gay.

But what worked for me in those kinds of situation was agreeing with them.

Whether being sarcastic or being serious just agree with them, they have no cannon fodder against you when you either own up or agree.

 

Yeah, definitely tell your teacher! I'm afraid that this could carry on outside of the classroom where you might not be as safe. Just be careful, ok?

 

This type of thing is really disappointing.

Verbal beatings for no reason. Douchebags.

 

I hate people like that! They're so mean and don't realize how much it hurts! I wish I could just punch them in the face so that they leave us alone and feel pain themselves!! I think the best thing to do would just be to sit far away from them. It's easier to ignore them...

 

You should alert your teacher about this since it is harrassment and try to ignore them because that will make you the better person =]

 

At my school, my brother started getting teased because I was gay, which I felt pretty bad about. As soon as I found out I went and talked to a teacher about it (it does help if you are close to them) and broke down in tears and told her everything. I asked my mum (because I didn't really want to tell by brother I helped him out ) if it had stopped, and it had. I also asked his year advisor who became aware of it and she told me it had stopped.

In short, talk to a teacher

 

If they persist in calling you gay, you could just say, "Why are you guys so obsessed with me? It's like you have a crush on me or something."

 

So I'm assuming that if they shout this across the room, then your teacher would hear what they're saying. Seeing as this teacher hasn't got them to stop, it would probably be a good idea to speak to a teacher other than the Spanish teacher about this, possibly a tutor if you have one. They should be able to confirm these remarks have been said with your Spanish teacher and sort this all out.
You'll find these people will listen to authority figures when told to stop, and you should find they will stop communicating with you in this way.

 

what you should do is when thry try to make fun of you .. accept it
" you dont know it beacuse your gay -
oh snaps unlucky me "

if they see that it dosnt bother you they will stop

 

>>>I hate people like that! They're so mean and don't realize how much it hurts!

Actually, they do. That's precisely why they do it.

This might not stop it from happening, but it might make it more bearable when it does. Try to get inside their brain. Look beyond their words, and look for their motivation.

For example, there's probably some guys and girls in your class that you think aren't that attractive. But you don't call them "ugly" at every opportunity. You probably don't call them "ugly" at all. And you don't call the larger kids "fat" or the failing kids "stupid". Why not? Well, why should you? They know they're not that attractive or large or not doing well. They don't need someone pointing out their failings. It only would make them feel bad.

Back to them. Why are they calling you "gay" and "homo"? You obviously know this -you don't need it pointed out. So they're obviously doing it just to make you feel bad. OK, so take it a step further. Why are they trying to make you feel bad? Almost certainly, they're trying to make themselves feel better about themselves. There are two ways people try to make themselves feel better about themselves - they can try to lift themselves up, ("I'm worthwhile") or they can try to drag others down ("you're worthless"). And, as a teenager yourself, you know how difficult it can be during those years to feel good about yourself. It's easy to hate your looks, your abilities, your position in life. So faced with either trying to build up their own fragile egos, or tearing down the easily-fractured ones around them...well, let's just say they're taking the easy way out.

So next time it happens, do try to disassociate yourself a bit. Try picturing the exchange from a third-party, like from above, on the ceiling, looking down. Try not to take the comments too personally. Remember that they care less about dragging you down than they do about trying to drag themselves up. And, if you can disassociate yourself enough, it won't bother you as much. And because of that, they won't be as successful in their attempt. They'll be stuck further down.

Mind you, this is all much easier said than done. It's easy to say "don't let it bother you", and a lot harder to actually not let it bother you. But if you can do it, even somewhat, it'll have two effects. First off, it'll make you feel better. And secondly, it'll keep them from feeling better...which should probably make you feel even better.

I would second talking to the teacher outside of class. Do your best to approach the problem in an adult manner - "here's what's happening, and I'd like to minimize it. Is there a way we can do this?" - rather than a childlike manner - "they're being mean, make it stop". If you approach her as an adult, your teacher will be forced to deal with you as an adult, and a lot less likely to give you an answer fit for a child - "kids will be kids, there's nothing I can do".

Good luck.

Lex

 

well this happend to me (in spanish aswell lol) and i just walked out without a care in the world......dont do this!!!! u get in trouble. talk to a teacher change class. try to avoid them. noone likes a punch to the face ok going of topic.....like i said
1.change class
2.talk to a teacher
3.punch um up:roflmao:

 

If someone did this to me, i always made a scene of it.

Making sure everyone knows and the teacher....

Like stand up and start shouting at them telling them to shut the fuck
then obviously the teacher will wonder what the hell

this way....you don't have the rep of 'snitch' lmao
and you seem HARDCORE MANNNN!

:')

 

Yeah, if the teacher isn't listening definitely talk to others until somebody is willing to step in and help. Everybody should feel safe at school.