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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by SmileItsNicole, Jan 6, 2009.

  1. SmileItsNicole

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    Ok i really realllyyyy like this girl, one of my best friends.
    So i gradually told her i was bi a few months back.
    And she was COMPLETLY fine with it.
    Then i told her i liked her, and she loved it and took it as a compliment.
    But shes straight and i dont have a chance with her i think.
    And eventhough she knows i like her, she seems to be leading me on.
    A LOT.
    And i dont know what to do.
    I think she may like me but is scared to risk our friendship?



    What do you think?
     
  2. Bunny

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    Talk to her. Tell her how you feel, that's it's unfair of her to hit on you and stuff when she's said that she's not interested.
     
  3. SmileItsNicole

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    But i dont want to lose her as a friend.
     
  4. Bunny

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    Why would you?

    She needs to understand how you feel. If she ditches you over something as insignificant as that, you need to find better friends.
     
  5. SmileItsNicole

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    So i just tell her i still like her alot and she cant talk to me the way she does if theres no hope?
     
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    That's the basic idea, yeah. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    Though, you might want to word it a little differently. xD
     
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    Hi there! First off congrats on coming out to her. Way to go! :slight_smile:

    Given that your friend is straight (and even if you think there might something else going on, it is always best to assume that she is straight until she tells you otherwise), I think it would be good if you would try moving on. You have already told her that you like her. You have done what you needed to do.

    The thing to keep in mind here too is that often when we have a crush on someone, we start seeing things that might not be even there. What I mean here is that we start reading too much into things that are being said, or being done. We start reading too much into things because parts of us want it to happen. Sometimes, it is just best to take a step back and try moving on. Yes, it is easier said than done, but with time, you will be able to move on.

    It sounds like that you have a really good friend in her. I think you want to make sure to keep her as a friend. What could help: try reminding yourself that even though you have a crush on her, and you like her a lot, you still have a great friend in her. Having her on your side is important. She seems to be supportive and accepting. If you can, try not to lose that.

    If she continues leading on, then maybe just let her know to end it. For example you could tell her that this makes you uncomfortable and it would be great if she could stop doing that. A friend will understand that.

    I hope this helps a bit!