So im 14 and dont know who to come out to first My mum, dad or nan Me and my mum are pretty close and know she'd accept eventually But would deny it first for a long time like months Me and my dad haven't been close since he and my mum split and I Have not got a clue what he thinks of homosexuality but I dont care if I fall Out with Me,and my nan cold not be closer but again dont know her opinion on homosexuality And would be devastated if we fell out but also would be devastated if she never knew the real me Who would you choose?:help:
First off congrats for actually choosing to come out, because it can be a big step for some people. It could be a good idea to tell your mum first just so you have support behind you when you tell other people, and you could explain to her about being worried that when you tell your nan she might not accept it and you'll fall out and she might be able to help so you don't loose your relationship. Hope this kinda helped.
Maybe get your dad and grandma's take on LGBT issues in general before you come out to them? Also, if it's your mom's mom you're talking about, maybe you could come out to your mom and then ask for tips on telling your grandma?
Have you told any of your friends yet? If you tell your friends first it gives you a support network to lean on if things go wrong. After that I would tell your mum. She might take a bit of time to come round to the idea and that's totally normal, so be prepared for that. Have a think about the questions she might ask now so you can be prepared to answer them calmly and with confidence. If she realises that you have thought it all through, she will come around much quicker.
If / when you come out to any of them, you might find it helpful to let them know about a Dublin based support group for parents of LGBT kids. This is the link to the website LOOK, they meet in the BeLonGTo Office, 13 Parliament Street, Dublin 2. (If you haven't heard of BeLonGTo, it's worth checking them out Welcome to BeLonGTo.org ) Best of luck. (*hug*)
Who do you know that is easy going and tat you know is not homophobic. That person should be the person you come out to. Like when I am rout to my dad I chose him first as he is easy going and he said himself he is not homophobic. This is personal experience. It may work for me and it may for u who knows until u try
The person that your closest to that seems like your mom I hope all works out for you and you never feel any pain due to your sexuality for sexuality is nothing to judge a person by
