I'm totally open to coming out to anyone now, but I don't know how to go about it. If people ask me flat out if I'm gay or if conversation naturally goes in that direction to the point where it would be difficult to carry on without saying where I stand, then I have no problem being completely honest. But I really wish I didn't have to tell people one by one and wish it were just common knowledge. But since, for the most part, I do have to go one by one, how do I bring up the topic? It's especially hard, because I still don't know exactly whether I'm straight/gay/bi and also because I find a casual approach to be the easiest way of going about telling people. I'd feel a little ridiculous saying, "I have to tell you something: I don't know what my sexuality is." Got any solutions? Thanks!!
If you want people to know then I might suggest wearing a pride ring or something. This way people would be more likely to ask you. If you have facebook, you can do as I did and post it in your status and update your status every 20 min.
This has been my standard opening line. "I have something personal I want to talk to you about. I've told a handful of people so far and it is not a secret. I'm gay." I change it up a little depending on the person. Then I just let the conversation go from there. A couple of people the conversation pretty much ends there, some ask a few questions, and I have had a couple of hour plus conversations. Though I am still waiting to use this one. "You know how I like to watch gay porn"
I've found that for new people I meet, those that I didn't know pre-coming out, I usually just make them realize it after we become closer. Easiest is to comment on how a guy (in your life or just a celebrity) is really hot, or just give strong hints here and there you are. I totally understand what you mean, at first I was like "How the hell am I supposed to tell this person I'm gay?". This is the best I've come up with... I wish people would just ask me
