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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by LolliPopps, Nov 10, 2015.

  1. LolliPopps

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    I need help, I don't know what to do, I want to come out so bad but at the time I try I always make up excuses and then don't actually say anything :frowning2: I want to transition so badly as I do not like the sex and genitals I was born with. Help me :tears::tears::tears:
     
  2. Dapat

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    If you feel safe to come out and are positive about everything...
    You could try leaving a letter to be found.
    You could also be like me and tell someone spontaneously and so quickly that your fear can't get you.
    Best of luck!
     
  3. LolliPopps

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    Thank you, i will try that then and see how it goes :slight_smile:
     
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    Have you got some type of counselling for this?

    I would imagine you need some support and back up?
     
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    One thing to keep in mind is that coming out is often a long process. Many parents respond negatively to coming out just because they believe that they can change your mind and they are frightened for you. This can lead to fairly hurtful comments that can be devastating as you are often so fragile during the first few months after discovering that you are trans.

    If things go badly please reach out to others for support immediately, you are not alone and even if you haven;t got someone you can turn to in real life, I'm here for you as are many others.

    Much love and I hope it goes well. I would suggest to only come out if you truly feel ready, transitioning takes a very long time and you need to be patient, you should only take steps when you feel that it is the right time to take them,

    (*hug*)

    Evelyn
     
  6. LolliPopps

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    thank you (*hug*) I think I am ready to tell them :slight_smile: (&&&)
     
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    WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE comfortable with it!