So a couple of weeks ago I realised that I was gay and have slowly starting to accept myself and this community is helping a lot:lol:, but last night I had dream/nightmare of coming out to my mum. She looked really unhappy but didn't say anything. I woke up straight away and couldn't go to sleep for a bit because I was panicking . This was very weird for me because I don't really dream anymore. Is this normal? Thanks
Hello, The science behind a dream is that it is all your thoughts of the day being processed. There's no scientific way to say what dreams are, but if they are processed thoughts, then I might suggest that you're scared that your mum will be unhappy that your gay? Perhaps try thinking more positive things like ''she'll accept me'' or ''she'll try* to understand''. * If your Mum isn't male and gay then she won't be going through the exact same thing as you, as well as she grew up in a different time so even if she was male and gay her experiences would be different. The most you can do is 'try' to understand by asking what it's like for people experiencing it and really listening to what they have to say.
It's perfectly normal to have dreams about things that worry you. Your brain runs through all the strangest possibilities in your dreams.
My interpretation of your dream sounds like you may be unconsciously afraid that your mum won't accept you. Even if you don't necessarily dream anymore it's completely normal to suddenly have dreams of things that may concern you deep down even if you're not yet truly aware of it.
I would think it's normal. Considering the points that have already been made about what can cause dreams. I actually had a dream of this myself. About three or four years in the future. We seemed to be in a different house, and I told my Mom that I wasn't straight. She smiled and hugged me and said she would still love me, then my future self seemed to turn to current me and tell me "See? Everything works out in the end." I woke up crying from how happy that made me.
