Okay, so i’ve been friends with this guy, Kieran, for about 2 months, and last week one of our mutual friends told me he was into me and was thinking about asking me out. A few minutes later me and Kieran bumped into each other and started talking, then just as I expected, he asked me out. Obviously he didn’t know I’m gay, and still doesn’t know now. Basically, I am the stupidest person ever because when he asked me out I said yes. I don’t know why I wasn’t honest with him; I suppose I didn’t want to hurt his feelings by turning him down. Anyway, the other day it was his 19th birthday, so we went out for a meal, and while we were out I said I really had to tell him something. Just as I was about to come out to him, I changed my mind and said I’ll tell him on monday. So when I’m in college tomorrow I need to tell him, I just don’t know what to say. I’m scared he will hate me for not being honest in the first place. I know I probably deserve to be hated but I really can’t lose him as a friend. We’ve only been together for just over a week, so I have to tell him before it’s too late, and since almost everyone knows i’m gay, he’s going to find out sooner or later. Sorry, this post is a bit long… anyway, does anyone have any ideas what I should say? Also, should I wait a while before I tell him? I just think it’s a bit harsh dumping him only a few days after his birthday. Please help… I dunno what to do. Thanks for any advice.
Yeah, this won't end well if you wait. Just spit it out. It may be messy but not as messy as it will be if you wait.
Tell him now before someone else does. Just tell him what you told us. You shouldn't have agreed to go out with him,but you didn't want to hurt his feelings. That's all you can do. But do it now,because like has been said,it'll only get worse.
Tell him as soon as possibly. Better for him to find out from you than from someone who assumes that he already knows
Don't assume he'll react badly. My girlfriend of 6 months was absolutely thrilled when I came out (admittedly there was a gap of a few months in between us breaking up and me coming out). Just be clear on how much he means to you as a friend and how you don't want to lose him.
tell him! it will only be worse if you don't tell him yourself! i understand your sticky situaion but there is only one way to get out of it TELL HIM!
I agree with everyone. The longer you wait, the harder it's going to be. Make sure you let him know how much you care about him.
