Phases of one gay man, me, an observation - lessons (some) learned to date. a) Why do I seem different - I just don't know what the heck is going on phase. Also called dazed and confused phase. Also called why can't I love phase. b) Hey I might be gay, nah, cant be - denial phase. c) Yes I am gay, but I don't accept it - great pain and sorry phase. Lots of confusion. Lots of pain. d) How do I manage coming out - planning and neutral phase. Memories from the past, be cautious, you might be beat up again. e) Consciously I don't care what others think phase. Unconsciously I do care. f) That’s where I am at this time – Nov 2015. Brainwashed
Hoping you'll be at the stage soon where it's I don't care what anyone thinks, it's all about my happiness.
Happiness would be good. It's been a 4 to 5 year journey so far - a through e parts. I wonder, when all the "poison" drains from me, can I be at peace and happy? ---------- Post added 22nd Nov 2015 at 07:47 AM ---------- Word correction. sorrow changed into sorry. (brain fart)
Similar to the Cass Sexual Identity Model: confusion comparison tolerance acceptance pride synthesis http://multicultural.usf.edu/pdf/safezone/support_identity.pdf I think I'm kinda around Stage 5 on my way to the 14,000 foot summit of Stage 6 (with a few head winds and the occasional rabid mountain goat).