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Phases of one gay man's journey to date.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by brainwashed, Nov 21, 2015.

  1. brainwashed

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    Phases of one gay man, me, an observation - lessons (some) learned to date.

    a) Why do I seem different - I just don't know what the heck is going on phase. Also called dazed and confused phase. Also called why can't I love phase.

    b) Hey I might be gay, nah, cant be - denial phase.

    c) Yes I am gay, but I don't accept it - great pain and sorry phase. Lots of confusion. Lots of pain.

    d) How do I manage coming out - planning and neutral phase. Memories from the past, be cautious, you might be beat up again.

    e) Consciously I don't care what others think phase. Unconsciously I do care.

    f) That’s where I am at this time – Nov 2015.

    Brainwashed
     
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    That's pretty much same point I'm at.
     
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    Hoping you'll be at the stage soon where it's I don't care what anyone thinks, it's all about my happiness.
     
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    So well said.

    This is where I'm at too.
     
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    Happiness would be good. It's been a 4 to 5 year journey so far - a through e parts. I wonder, when all the "poison" drains from me, can I be at peace and happy?

    ---------- Post added 22nd Nov 2015 at 07:47 AM ----------

    Word correction. sorrow changed into sorry. (brain fart)
     
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    Similar to the Cass Sexual Identity Model:
    1. confusion
    2. comparison
    3. tolerance
    4. acceptance
    5. pride
    6. synthesis

    http://multicultural.usf.edu/pdf/safezone/support_identity.pdf

    I think I'm kinda around Stage 5 on my way to the 14,000 foot summit of Stage 6 (with a few head winds and the occasional rabid mountain goat).