Why is that final push to actually come out to someone so hard?!?!

I'm not sure. I, also, get panic attacks and have trouble talking about my feelings. The first time I came out, and it wasn't even in person, I was shaking/hyper ventilating/ all that stuff. But once I did it- that all went away pretty quickly. For me, what causes a panic attack is usually something that I actually don't have to worry about at all. What really helped me was, I was ready, and determined. I got it over with I guess. In other words, I did it before I really could think through and it turned out fine! As long as your friend is accepting, I would totally just go for it. Don't hold yourself back, but also don't force yourself to come out. Good luck!

 

The way I overcame this was to spontaneously come out before my brain had a chance to register what I was actually doing.

Though... The person I told is bisexual so it's obviously easier to tell them, though the trick is still the same.

If you want to come out and are ready, though have anxiety problems or something like me, that's what I suggest.

 

I love your idea of writing a letter. Even if you never send it, I think seeing your own words on paper will actually be a great confidence builder. And, it sounds to me that confidence is what you so need right now. Convincing yourself is the only way to convince others. A true friend, I think, would also appreciate getting a hand written letter. Not a text or email. But hand written. A letter that took time to compose. Hand written is also extremely personal. You're saying how important this is to you. It is private between you and her. No one else is copied. Write it. Then put it under your pillow. Look at it in a day or two. Then decide. I hope you do send it. You may then opt to tell her in person. Or decide you don't necessarily need her approval. {Which by the way you don't need} If she is a true friend she will be support you. It will also give her time to ponder your words before reacting. I wish you well.

 

It's just a matter of leaping before you see how far away the other side is.

 

I would love to read it!!
I'm really proud of you (*hug*)
And I hope you have the courage to send it !

 

I cant give you advice because THIS IS ME IN 2 PARAGRAPHS!

 

For me its the straight environment I live in. I have always thought of what would happen if I came out. Dont forget though everyone and every situation is different. If you can possibly consult a medical professional about your panic attacks.