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How to you come out to someone who's already come out???

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by thatchickcj, Dec 19, 2015.

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  1. thatchickcj

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    So, I've recently come out to myself and I'm in the process of coming out to most of my closer-ish group of friends, one of whom is also lesbian. I have no interest in this friend, but I think it'd be cool if I could somehow come out to her because we have similar interests and it's always healthy to have a friend of similar interests, etc etc.

    This friend of mine has been out four 3-4 years now and I've only figured things out recently.

    I wanna come out to my friend, but I have no idea how because we only have one class together at school that I could physically talk to-- which is primarily casual talk only.

    I could also try and text her, but I dunno whether or not that's a good idea/what I could say without being hella awkward.

    Any advice is good advice rn xD.
     
    #1 thatchickcj, Dec 19, 2015
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    You could simply ask if her if you can talk in private about a certain matter, or you could text her that.

    You guys might end up being really good friends after.

    Do you trust her? Or do you think she could keep a secret? Do you want her to keep your sexuality a secret?
     
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    I mean, right now, I'm comfortable keeping things on the down-low. But, I know that I can trust this friend.
     
    #3 thatchickcj, Dec 19, 2015
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    Well, then by all means, do it :slight_smile: She should understand what you're going through and empathize. It'll be nice to have someone you can ask about gay topics.
     
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    I don't know what to say X_X
     
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    She would probably relate to people of the same gender thinking she liked them anyways
     
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    Hmm.. you could tell her, "Hi. I was wondering if I could talk to you about something after school? "

    And then when you meet her, "So, I just wanted to ask, how is it like being gay?"

    She'll probably give you a very brief description. She might laugh awkwardly, or she might ask why.

    Then tell her, "I'm asking because I'm gay, too."

    And then go from there.
     
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    Hah xD I wish. My friend's pretty reserved about everything. I texted her and we're having a semi-awkward text conversation about our experiences, so I guess it was a success xD.
     
    #8 thatchickcj, Dec 19, 2015
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