I didnt know where to put this so here seems a good place as any. I have told my first male friend that i am gay. He is fine with that, in fact he's been great. Now i met up with him last night and we went to some bars in London and then onto a club. Now in the club there was this guy who was just messing around and he came up to me did a high five thing then went away. A little while later i saw my mate and this guy chatting about stuff and then it looked like they were arguing. Next thing my mate goes and tells the bouncer that this guy has said he will beat him up. The bouncer then chucks this guy and his mates out but we hear him saying that he will wait outside to beat us up. Now we see him waiting outside and so we have to get the bouncer to escort us to the taxi and cos he wont do it for nothing i have to pay him £20 so that he would escort us. Money which cant afford to give a bloke to walk us 100 yards. When i ask my mate what happened he says that the other guy just started on him for no reason, but i know that a few nimutes before this other guy was just acting funny and normal. But this isnt the first time stuff like this happens with my mate. It seems that whenevr we go out there is always some sort of incident which ruins the night. Ive been going clubbing in London for years with differnt people and never does stuff like that happen. Everyone usually has a good night, but this particular mate gets very mouthy and i can understand why things get out of hand. Thing is though i like meeting up with him to go out as hes is a mate but i just cant take these incidents that happen where we nearly get beaten up or spend money unnessacarily.
If you don't want to give up going out with this friend, I would suggest you either cut back on it somewhat or have a talk with him and tell him he needs to be less confrontational with other people. Hopefully he'll understand that his behavior is troublesome and he'll stop. If not, then you have to decide which is worse-- not going clubbing with this friend or getting into these predicaments every time you go out.
Is there much alcohol involved during these outings to clubs? Because if so, then your friend might just be the confrontational type when drunk, and I'd suggest just talking to him about maybe cutting back on the booze a little when you guys go out, if that's what he gets like. And remember, this is YOUR money being used to protect you guys from the predicaments he's put you in, and you don't deserve that. You should definitely talk to him, and EITHER ask him to stop being so mouthy and troublesome, OR you could ask him to kindly pay for these messes with his own money ^_^
Yes alcohol is always involved im afraid. I suppose cos im so used to all my other friends although getting very drunk, they still have that 'sobering up' moment when you know that you need to keep wits about you. But with him that never happens. Yes Helen i agree about the money too. And i did say that im not paying for it but theres always that moment where he'll say i'll pay you back and i just think sod it go on ill pay for it but you have to pay me back. But its definitly getting to the satge where we cant carry on like this whereby nights out are ruined by his drunken behaviour.
I second that! Maybe it would be good to go to places where no alcohol is served, given that the evenings out tend to become less fun as they go on. Knowing what can happen, why not suggest a coffee place for a change?
