I came out as bi but I think I'm a lesbian. How do I tell people?

I haven't been in your position before but since people know you are bi, it shouldn't come as a surprise that you like women. Can you not just go with your current attractions and if there comes a point where actually declaring you are lesbian vs bi, worry about it then? I'm not sure I can imagine when that might be but surely it only matters to you and whoever you become seriously intimate with?

 

Hi :3
My friend was in the exact position. At first they came out as lesbian, then bi, then pan.
The good thing was because their parents were supportive, they didn't mind the change.
Anyway, it doesn't really concern them because it ain't their relationship anyway.
All the best :3

 

You could say "you know, maybe I'm not as interested in guys as I previously thought. I realized that being with a girl feels more right to me."

Or just "yeah, I've realized that 'lesbian' feels like a more appropriate identity for me."

I know that a lot of people come out as bisexual before gay so it's common. Since we are assumed "straight by default," when I realized I had a crush on a girl I was like "oh, so I must be bisexual" because I assumed I must still have to like guys. I didn't consider that I could in fact be pretty much gay.

 

You could just flat out say "I think I'm an lesbian." I don't think your sexual identity should be a set in stone. Because sexuality is a fluid thing, its sometimes confusing, so if you find a label that suits you better use it instead.

 

I did the same thing. It's a pretty easy correction if you don't think too much about it. It's best not to plan. I tend to just blurt things out if they're stressful and I'm worried about the reaction I might get. Just say something like "Hey, ya know that thing I said about being bi? Yeah, well, it turns out that I'm gay." Conversation over (hopefully).

 

For what it's worth, when I first came out as bisexual, there followed a period of time when I was pretty much only attracted to the same sex. I actually thought I was a lesbian for a time, but later on the attraction to both sexes came back. (And then I was only attracted to opposite sex and was convinced I was straight. Good times.)

However, what you are describing doesn't sound like what I experienced. My period of exclusive same sex attraction lasted for a couple of weeks and then became normal. And even during that time, I never "knew" I was a lesbian, I thought I might be a lesbian, but then I could remember definite attraction to the guys in the past.

I wouldn't be rash, but you will probably know what you are. My only advice is to be open to any changes and to be true to yourself. Good luck. (And don't feel bad about coming out again as a lesbian. You are what you are . )

 

I think Juli says it all beautifully.

 

I was in the same situation. I basically said "once I stopped fighting my interest in guys, came out as bi, and gave myself permission to think about guys, it's pretty much all I've wanted to do and at this point don't really have much interest in girls."

 

I did this to a few people when I was sort of inadvertently outed when I was still coming to terms with my sexuality. I just told them later on when I corrected my sexuality label with them that I was still confused and trying to figure out my attractions.

Once you explain it like that, people are generally fine.

 

Hi! The situation you're in isn't uncommon at all! But if everyone was accepting about you being bi I'm sure it'll be the same when you come out for a second time as lesbian.

 

When you are ready you will know. It is all up to you and those who are around you will help. Love and peace