So I've been struggling with this for two years, and honestly if I hold it in any longer I think I'll lose it. It being new years eve, I didn't want it to become three years. Today I've been trying to think of a way to come out to my grandma.
Hello, I know it's quite close to midnight, but is there a guy around you/you could call who can come and would be willing to kiss you for a new year kiss. I mean, it's not exactly telling them, but it's a way of them knowing you're not-straight. If that seems sudden then perhaps you could say "Look, I know many people don't do their New Years resolutions, but I'm doing mine now" ... and then go on to tell her that you're gay and hope that she'll accept you and anything else you want to say. Hope this helps, happy New Year.
That would be good, buuuuuuuut I'm 13, and my grandma might be wondering why i brought a random dude in her house lol
Hey Mordaking, I'm going to move your thread over to Coming Out Advice, because I think it might get buried here in Chit Chat. Hopefully you'll get some more advice there.
Maybe wait for another time then, say if you've been going out with a guy for a while and say "Do you mind if my boyfriend comes around next time I come around?" and then wait for her answer. Asking is always polite especially if they don't know them at all, and it will also get her opinion on homosexuality and/or LGBT.
It seems like a pretty abrupt way of getting an opinion on it. It could work, but I would be careful with saying that. It depends if you want to go about it slowly or just 'get it over with'. It's important to not push yourself to come out if you don't feel you understand the situation enough already. I once told my mom I was gay when she discovered my gay porn and I immediately cowered away by saying I was curious and I actually like girls blah blah blah. You can always try seeing if your grandma has any negative opinions on the matter such as bringing up some random story relating to LGBT issues and seeing her opinion on it. It's really up to you whatever you way you want to find out her feelings on it. If you see she's pretty open minded, then you'd feel more relieved and that may boost your confidence. Although, you really should not force yourself into this. Coming out is a moment of freedom, and it's crucial that you know you aren't putting yourself in any danger or major backlash because of it. Also, do you actually have a boyfriend or was that just a hypothetical statement?
Have you gauged her views on homosexuality? Say, bring up a news story or something, and see how she reacts but don't relate it to you. And depending on how she reacts, come out- or don't come out.. And if her reaction will affect you.