So I have been telling a lot of my online friends that I am trans. The thing is after I tell them and they react positively I get this terrible feeling of doubt. Like I am making all this up and I am going to chicken out later on. Did anyone else feel like this? I feel so certain of my future until I tell people, and more and more people knowing just makes the doubting and questions worse! :tears:
I believe it is normal. It is happening for me as well. I find the doubt goes away the more I talk about it with others.
yeah same i thought i was gay for like a couple of days then i started thinking i like both males and females so to the people i told i'm like how am i gonna tell them luckly i only told one person so i dint have much to clean up but still now i know who i am being but still think it through for a little while then decide that's what worked for me anyway so i recommend thinking it through
I'm questioning my gender identity (which doesn't seem to fit into either "cis guy" or "trans girl" as far as I know) and have been crossdressing regularly for the last couple months. I really like having an alternate female form and decided to go to an LGBT gamers event as female last month to see if I liked interacting with people in public as a girl. It was great, but the next time I went to an event as female I felt guilty about it. Like if I don't know my gender identity is in fact female I have no business presenting as anything other than my birth gender. I've been told I shouldn't feel guilty about this, that if I'm questioning I really should present as female regularly to sort of "try it on" but I still feel like if I'm not definitely trans I shouldn't be letting people get to know me as a girl.
Aww have you looked up any other identities? Maybe something like demigirl? I feel guilty by just saying I am a boy when I still look like a girl on the outside. I think guilt is also a normal thing that happens?
Yeah, I u derstand that. I feel like I don't have the right to call myself a man when I still look like a girl. Guilt is normal. Fear is normal. Doubt is normal. It is apart of becoming who we are meant to be.
I think it is part and parcel of accepting yourself. You are taking a big step, retreating back to what you know to be safe and feeling guilty for taking the step. When I was coming out to myself I went once a week for a cup of tea and a chat with support worker at an LGBT Centre. I did the I'm bi bit for a couple of weeks, then one day she asked how I saw my orientation and gay just slipped out. These things take time, don't push, just take time to be you.
The same group I presented female to is meeting again this Tuesday. I'm not sure if I should appear as male or female now, and I think maybe I might need some encouragement to do the latter.
OK, regardless of what my identity really is, I need to figure it out somehow in order to move on with life. And to really know, I have to try both genders out and find out which one fits me the best. Considering I have 28 years of experience in being male, that means being female more often. So I'm going as female.
I had that for a little while after realizing I'm gay not bi. Went away pretty quickly, Jennifer Lawrence notwithstanding
