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Do typical straight guys still react badly to gay friends?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Methrandir, Jan 9, 2016.

  1. Methrandir

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    Ok, I was really nervous to come out to any of my guy friends but yesterday i told one of them and he really didnt think of it as much of a big deal! Thoughts?
     
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    Depends on the person really
     
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    Yeah, totally depends on the person, where you live, your age, etc. Times are changing and it's becoming more accepted. I'm glad your friend was cool about it!
     
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    Increasingly, for men under 25, I think in most circles there's a pretty high degree of acceptance. Surprisingly, even among many religious crazies, there seems to be a surprising amount of tolerance among younger people.

    You know your own friends better than anyone, so you will have to make the judgment call, but most likely, unless you sense strong homophobia, it will probably be fine.
     
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    From what I've heard, I've gotten that impression, too.

    Indeed, I think acceptance seems to have grown, period. I've noted on high school alumni pages on Facebook plenty of signs of LGBT acceptance (e.g., the rainbow colors on profile pictures that came out after the Supreme Court legalized marriage equality). It's a strange sight, because I don't think I'd have been safe coming out in high school.
     
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    Yes. Guys can be accepting.
    Luckily all of my friemds whom I've come out to are very comfortable, and there's no awkwardmess among us :slight_smile:
    The times are a changing.
     
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    From what I gather on this site and on Reddit.com the younger guys, for the most part, seem to have a lot of luck coming out to their hetero male friends. I'm thinking that a guy who has been friends with you for a while will see you as a person and a friend who happens to be gay, and will value that friendship. The kids being born today, hopefully, will live in a world where sexuality is no more different than having blue eyes.
     
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    No. Blows my mind that they do not.

    ---------- Post added 10th Jan 2016 at 06:15 PM ----------

    As I've already said, acceptance by others blows my mind. At times I really don't know what to think of it. I even find people in the 30s and 40s not being bothered by homosexuality. Now people in the 50s on up really do not understand the topic of homosexuality, so they go along for the ride.
     
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    From what I have seen and heard the younger they are the more accepting they are. This always isn't the case but I also believe it depends on the person as well.
     
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    Depends on the person.

    Where I live in the Bible Belt, yes, especially if the guys are religious. This entire idea of younger people being more accepting isn't entirely true when evangelical Christianity is in the mix. I have had a lot of people distance themselves from me (start ignoring my texts, etc) or tell me I need to get help to change my orientation when I've told them.

    However if they are more liberal they will probably be accepting.
     
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    Yes, I accepted the fact that a friend of mine was homosexual in 8th grade, and I never felt any animosity towards him.
     
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    This is the big dilemma for me as still no one knows I'm gay. I have all straight friends and dont know anyone else who is gay and I'm scared about their reaction. On the other hand, if I tell my friends and they are fine with it, they may be angry that I havent told them after all these years.
     
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    depends on the person, example: my best friend told his parents as soon as he got home and now they wont look me in the eye or speak to me for very long....yeah but he is totally cool with it