Coming out to my parents in a couple of weeks

This week I came out to my sister and I feel soo good right now. I saw her today and she gave me a big hug and wanted to know how I was feeling. I told her that I felt liberated by telling her.Then I asked if she told my brother in law which I told her she could do because he was able to hear the conversation. She did tell him. He said to her 'oh is that it' and the he asked if I was happy and my sister said yes and he said cool.

While talking the other night she told me that my parents will probably take it well after the initial shock. This is how I feel. She also said that I should tell them sooner than later, which I have been thinking. Now that my sister knows I don't want her to be the only one to know this part of me. Our family has had too many secrets. So now I have a plan. In a couple of weeks I am going to give them a letter that I have had typed out since New Years. I just want to get it over with. I would tell them next weekend but we are all getting together to celebrate my mom's birthday.

Right now my I am not too sure how to come out to my twin brother. My sister thinks that he will accept me after the shock of the news. I am not too sure. Over the years he has made some comments and as far as I know he only know one gay person. He is the cousin of my soon to be ex sister in law. And he sees him maybe once a year if that. On top of that he is going through a lot. He just got laid off and his divorce is being finalized in a week or so. I have been thinking of telling my parents in a couple of weeks, then tell my brother after that, but I am not too sure. :help:

 

He took his layoff well and took it in stride. He had a feeling it could occur. His group went through a number of reorgs and a few of the projects he worked on were canceled over the past few months.

 

Right now I think I am at the point were I don't need luck or courage because this is something I AM going to do, coming out to my parents.

After sleeping on it I am leaning towards telling my parents first them telling my brother. By then his divorce will be final and that will be one less thing he needs to think about. He will be in a better frame of mind because he just wants to move forward with his life. Also he lives in NH about 2 hours away, so he is not all that close. He comes down every other weekend when he picks up his kids and take them for the weekend. I am thinking of maybe taking him out to lunch some time or ask him on a day when he drops off the kids if he can come over to my parents place. They live a mile away from my niece and nephews and tell him then.

 

I'm a fraternal twin. Its funny after reading everyone's responses I am not really worried anymore with my brother. I just want to live my life! Thanks guys! (&&&)

 

I don't know why but today I am totally stressed out. I am not stressed out in telling my family. I am soo ready. I want to tell them and tell them NOW. I can't because this weekend we are celebrating my mom's birthday, so I know its not a good time. I just feel like its all bottling up inside me and I feel like I am about to explode. On top of that I had a lousy week at work.

My best friend finally called me back but I was at work so I could not come out to him there. :bang::bang: He called to tell me that his wife had their twin girls and his wife had some complications. I am glad he called me, but I wish he called me at home so I could talk to him more. Even with that, I don't think it would be the time to come out to him. I don't know.

I know that everyone has said look at how happy and free you will feel when you come out to everyone. I know that and understand. I want to get to that point but right now it seems so far away. I really don't have any questions, I just needed to vent. :bang::bang:

 

Its the waiting that is driving me crazy!