do think Mom's always know

I reckon she might suspect, or maybe she is just trying to be politically correct, just in case? I totally see how it could be either nothing, or her meaning that she doesn't care, or even knows that you're not straight? How long is the letter? Because if it's really long then that might not mean too much, because it could just be randomly chucked in there, but if it's short, then it would probably mean more

Sorry that this isn't much help - I'm kind of confused too xD

 

To be honest, it does seem thats the meaning you are interpretaing from that message. It could be that shes hinting at you meeting a girl and stuff. However, you know your mum better than us. In some ways it sounds like you actually want to tell her and thats what your reading into the message. Just a thought!

 

Mothers do tend to be able to pick up on things about their children. When I came out to my mother, she wasn't surprised at all. It sounds like she might have an idea that you're not straight, but it's hard to tell from that little information. It does sound to me like she'll be open and accepting no matter what, so that's fantastic

 

Mothers will always know more than you suspect. They often know more about yourself than you do haha. They all show it in a different way though. Some mothers WILL drop alot of hints like "Mostly, thanks for being so amazing. we are honored to be your parents and so proud of you" and such. Some mothers just say this alot though naturally. If you have noticed that this is happening more and more recently? I think she could be trying to say she would always love and accept you.

But it sounds like, even if she has no clue your might be gay, that she would accept you no matter what. Those are some really kind words your mother gave you, and they dont sound like they came from a woman who wouldent accept her son for being gay. It sounds like you have nothing to worry about I wish you luck for whenever you do decide to tell her, or if she finds out otherwise! (*hug*)

 

Mums always want grandkids. Irish mums will kill for Grandkids. I wouldn't place too much emphasis on the wording. I think she's just encouraging you to start or keep dating.

I do believe that mom's are significantly more sensitive to knowing their children are gay ahead of time, but you'd be surprised at just how many are utterly blown away by the news.

I'd say work on you for now and wait for the family. Don't worry about them for now.

 

She may suspect something. From what you said in a previous post that you have not been with a man or woman beyond kissing. Now have you had many girlfriends? If you have a lack of a dating history then she may know something is up.

I have had a similar situation. I have had a lack of girlfriends around and when my mom asked I would come with lame excuses. Over the past few months she has said to me you are a good son and I am so proud of you etc. She even asked if there was any single girls at the office I work at. I had to bite my lip. :bang: This is part of the reason why I want to tell my parents now. I want to let them know that I won't be bringing any woman around but maybe a nice guy.

With all this said, you need to work on you and coming out fully to you. Until then don't worry about your mom or anyone else. (*hug*)

 

Since you have five brothers, she probably knows you are different. Are your brothers older than you? My guess is she's telling you everything is going to be okay even if you are gay. She may not know for sure but she may suspect.

 

Mine doesn't! She seriously panicked when my brother's GF had a stomach bug one morning from a dodgy takeaway the night before.

Then again, she's in her mid-40s and doesn't feel ready to be a granny!

 

Moms always know. I came out at age 25, and when I did, my mom told me she had known since I was 12. Given that her and my dad had cornered me probably five different times and asked me if I was gay, the first roughly around my freshman year of high school, I knew she wasn't kidding, either.

But, it won't be "for certain" in her mind until you tell her. Whether her note was meant to coax you out, I won't say for certain, but I would suspect she's trying to make you feel at ease to come out to her when you're ready.

 

by the sound of it, the worst that can happen i that she'll be a bit shocked. i'm sure she would be glad that you told the truth and shared an important part of your life with her.

 

My mom says stuff like that all the time to me. About how someday someone will find me and we'll be happy. And how she loves me for who I am, and no matter what she always will. But I have no idea if she knows anything, Ive never mentioned anything, or given the slightest clue (at least i dont think so). So i think moms do know alot more than we assume that they know.

 

From what people around here have said, their mothers seemed to always have known. My mom didn't give any inclination that she knew all along but she certainly wasn't hugely shocked either. So maybe they're just good at picking up unconscious cues we give off and just wait for us to reaffirm it. I don't know for sure.

 

she probably knows, just cuz she's a mom. But then again, she may be completely oblivious. Have you been single awhile? or at least appeared that way to her. Have you expressed some kind of wanting to find your soul mate to her? to me, that sounds like a mom just being encouraging and wanting you to be happy with someone who loves you. She may mean male or female, but i don't think there's that much to read into.

 

Hmm. . .to me it doesn't seem as though she is hinting. Though I do agree that mother's do tend to know, even subconsciously if not consciously, and that the "someone" rather than "girl" may have been a Freudian slip. . .

 

From the questions my Mom has asked in the past I know she knows. The cool thing is that I have never gotten a bad vibe from her about it. She just wants to be sure I am happy.

 

Thats exactly how my mom is. It's kind of an unspoken thing because one time when I was acting kind of depressed she told me I needed to start dating, and asked if I was interested in any girls. I'm 22 so people are definitely questioning that fact, so then she asked if I was interested in any boys, haha. It was wicked awkward and I just laughed and shrugged it off, but she's gotta know. At least she didn't do it in a way that made it seem she'd be disappointed, it was more of an attempt to see what would make me happier.

As for moms knowing, I think a lot of them know deep down, I mean they watch you grow up from the time you were born, and notice any little ticks that you develop or anything that makes you seem different from most kids. Unless their son is a super masculine star athlete who is always dating girls and good at faking those relationships, I bet most parents get an inclination.

 

Well, like everyone else has said, yeah she might suspect something, but it might not necessarily mean she thinks you're gay. My family knew shit was up with me before I came out, but they had NO idea that what I wasn't telling them was that I'm a boy! She might just know you're not being honest with her and have no idea what you're not sharing. You never know!
(P.S. Coming out to parents is TOTALLY one of the most awesome things I've done... it just feels great to talk about it.)

P.P.S. YAY for San Diego!!

 

Lol, my mom has been doing almost the same thing. She knows this past year, there has been something bothering me. She noticed that I'm not nearly as happy as I have been in the past. She's tried sitting down and talking to me so many times about whats on my mind. I haven't caved yet. I think that she believes i'm stressed from work to be honest. I don't think she knows, but I'm 24 now and haven't exactly brought any girls home yet lol. So thats really the only sign to work off of. So one time she sat me down, she's like "I think you should get a girlfriend. It will get your mind off things. and you won't be so down." So either she thinks its work getting me down, or she wanted to see how I reacted when she said gf.

But this year, I've been getting sentimental cards from her too. "A son like you brings a special kind of pride- in the kind of person you've always been and as you've grown, in the wonderful man you've become. A son like you brings so much happiness to life. Hope you know how much you're appreciated and most of all how much you're loved." I always got nice cards from her, but never like this up until the past few months lol.

I'm taking mine at face value. I think yours is along the same lines. Its awesome if they have a hint and don't care, because it will make telling them so much easier in the end. And I know the exact feeling you have. They may know, but we're not comfy with it yet ourselves.