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Coming out through a letter

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by JackIsANerd, Feb 12, 2016.

  1. JackIsANerd

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    So I wrote a letter to come out to my mom, the thing is just the thought of giving it to her makes me want to pass out. How can I do this without chickening out? I really want to come out I am just being a giant baby about it. :confused:
     
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    You can do it! You wrote a whole letter to her- that is a big commitment and it would be a shame not to follow through. If you can muster up the courage, I'd just hand it to her and then let her read it, or even put it in a place she sees all the time. It's just like pulling off a bandage- do it quickly so that you don't have enough time to change your mind. Good luck!
     
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    I completely agree with the previous post. You've already written the letter and committed to it. You obviously don't have to follow it through if you decide against it (it's entirely your choice) but if you think it's the right thing to do, you're going to have to bite the bullet and do it! Try and pre-emptively think of some questions she might ask you and how you could respond and plan how she's going to get the letter.

    I believe in you and I wish you the best of luck. (*hug*)
     
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    What I did was leave it on the table when I left for school. My mum obviously saw it as soon as she came down for breakfast. That seemed to work. What I did with my friends was give them the letter and I told them to read it when they got home. Maybe something like that might work?
     
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    Thank you all for the advice! I am going to try to leave it somewhere this weekend hopefully :grin:
     
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    let us know how it goes :slight_smile:
     
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    Chickened out today but I am leaving the note out for her in the morning fingers crossed
     
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    it happens. *crosses fingers* good luck!
     
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    I actually had someone suggest writing letters as a way to get the feelings out even if they really won't be seen by other people. So, just expressing the thoughts is likely to be good for you.
     
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    I wrote a letter to my mom, and I just gave it to her when she walked in and left the house. I got into a huge debate with her afterwards and she pretends it never happened, but that's just what happened to me. It could go very well for you. Just do it, it'll be fine. :slight_smile: <3
     
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    Good luck - I know it's scary, I'm in a really similar position. I plan on coming out to my parents soon, best of luck to you, please let me know how it goes. You are so brave!
     
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    I think she did get the letter but she is pretending like everything is normal :frowning2:
     
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    She is pretending that everything is normal, thats a good sign! It meens she dosnt know what to say or how she feels. This a big thing to find out, as a parent I know I would probably be a little shy about the situation.
    I suppose the most obvious thing to do would be to ask her about it. Good luck with what ever you decide to do x
     
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    yeah just ask her. It's better to bring it up since you've come this far.