Freaking out

Congrats! As Asteroid said, you've done something really brave. And the feeling of physical fear is absolutely normal, don't worry (*hug*) The first step is usually the hardest to take, so it's awesome that you've taken it!

 

Congrats Dude! It honestly takes a huge amount of courage. I wish all the best, and again, if you need anything, just talk to us.

 

Congrats! You took a huge step. Give yourself a pat on the back and take a deep breath! Obviously you can trust him this is a huge step in your journey. This potentially will bring you closer to him. Good luck! and keep us posted! (*hug*)

I came out to a friend 2 weeks a go by email. I felt sick to my stomach after I sent it. It turned out fine. It took me almost an hour to send it after I composed it.

 

You'll be surprised how often you end up getting what I've started calling "the pear response".

When my sister was very young - kindergarten or first grade - she came home from school really upset about something. We asked her what the problem was, and she finally burst out crying. "I can't tell you," she said. "It's too horrible." For several minutes, we tried to calm her down so we could get the story, but each time she tried, she'd lose it again. Our minds all started thinking of the most horrible things that could have happened to her at school. Finally, though, she managed to tell us the awful truth.

It seems a couple weeks previous, she had brought a pear to school as part of her lunch. She ended up not being hungry enough to eat it, so she put it in her "cubby" at the front of the classroom, in anticipation of eating it the next day. But then she put something in front of it, and she forgot it was there. Then, a couple weeks later, she had rediscovered the pear. It had gone black and soft, and started smelling a bit. She was so disgusted by it, she couldn't bring herself to throw it away. And so she came home crying.

Really. That was it. Her pear went bad.

Since our sexuality is such an integral part of our lives, we tend to think of it as a huge deal. But the sexuality of other people - unless we're interested in them that way - tends to be of little or no import at all. So when we finally do work up the nerve to tell people - "oh my God, I have something really important to tell you" - it's not at all uncommon to get the pear response. "Really? That's it?" Hopefully, the friends will feel happy for you, and express support, but honestly? Not that big a deal.

Lex

 

Hmm. . .that sounds like it would make the central theme of a Youtube coming out movie. . .hmm. . .

 

Trust me, I felt the exact same way when I sent a coming out E-mail to my mom. At school the next day I was so nervous and freaking out.

I texted her asking if she read it, and she said yes and she still loved me the same. When we went home we talked. I'm not gonna lie, it wasn't all pony's and rainbows, but it went ok.

I think you did the right thing, and I hope it goes well for you.

Good luck!

 

good luck

 

Coming out is always hard,especially when your not sure how someone will react.
I think it takes huge amounts of courage.
Just relax and try to think of it as a positive thing. You did it! And,for that I congratulate you.

 

That was a really brave thing to do. I agree with Lex's pear response cos exactly the same thing happened to me. I built it up so much that when i said it my mates were like 'what is that it cos i thought you were gonna say something awful'! Good luck with it and let us know how it goes.

 

I think you've struck a chord. It sounds to me like he's been really struggling himself.

 

It sounds like he may be going through similar struggles like you. When you get more comfortable with everything you may want to talk to him face to face. It may be helpful for both of you to know your not alone in this. Good luck.

 

That's cool. At least now you both have someone you can talk to (along with us)

 

I think he might be one of those people that might be mostly straight and a little gay, but choose to not engage their gay part of their sexuality. I agree, seems like he's struggling himself, but at least it does seem that he's accepting. good to have support.

 

Hey. Yeah the same thing happened to me a few weeks ago when i came out for the very first time to a friend. We went out for a few drinks, but i couldn't start the conversation. When we went home, I started instant messaging him. I really needed to get it out cause I felt like I was gonna explode, so I told him over IM. I was shaking so bad I couldn't type and felt so nauseous(?). I kind of cheated cause i knew his good friend is gay, so i knew I could talk to him about it. But still had such a hard time with it. And still do.

It was definitely a great thing for you to let that off your chest. I bet it felt good (other than the anticipation of a reply lol). He does seem like he's having a struggle of his own. But you reaching out to him might be good for the both of you because now you both have someone close to talk to. Very good.

Lex, I love the pear response too.

-LINJ