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dating someone in the closet-pressuring her to come out?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Bella B, Feb 26, 2016.

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  1. Bella B

    Bella B
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    hey,
    so im in a relationship with this girl that is only out to a couple of her friends, and it isnt like i'm pressuring her to come out, but Ive been out for a while and it sucks having to hide it from everyone...and i dont know what to do! I know how tough it is to come out and how selfish I sound but it is extremely difficult to be in this relationship right now. HELP!!!!!!
     
    #1 Bella B, Feb 26, 2016
  2. Wolf of The Baltic

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    Dear friend

    Quite the predicament you're in. The best advice I can give is to give it sometime, just remember she's going through the same stuff you went through but maybe worse. She may be going through some hard times coming out, I don't think pressuring her would help. If you need anything else please just ask.

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    #2 Wolf of The Baltic, Feb 26, 2016
  3. Distant Echo

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    Is there anywhere you an go together where she won't have to hide? I've been the closeted one in a relationship and because we lived in different towns I could be more or less comfortable in her town but couldn't have handled showing affection in mine.
     
    #3 Distant Echo, Feb 27, 2016
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    I would just take it easy. Don't force her, but just tell her that when she is out, she might be comfortable. Just tell her that you understand her predicament. Good luck.
     
    #4 LizSibling13, Feb 27, 2016
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