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Coming out?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Seoul2000, Mar 5, 2016.

  1. Seoul2000

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    Hello, I recently came out to my family, and I am also in a Gay-Straight alliance club at my school. But although I am technically out, not everyone knows because I don't want to force my sexuality on anyone. But my mother really wants me to like tattoo it on my head or something lol. By that I mean she wants me to let everyone know. I just don't think it is their business unless they ask. Should I tell everybody, or just wait until they ask me about who I am dating?
     
  2. CrazyBoutBoyz

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    If they don't ask you, why do they need to know? If you're 100% okay with them knowing, but don't want to go through the effort of being a gayhovah's witness and going door to door, don't, it'l spread around the grapevine on its own
    (*hug*)bye
     
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    ^^Great answer...
     
  4. I'mStillStanding

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    I totally agree with CBB. You do you :slight_smile: On the up side sounds like your mom is pretty cool with it which is awesome :slight_smile:
     
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    Right! I may confess I felt like I should do something like this, but it's because I have OCD and the thought that I should tell everyone (even to people I'm not close to) wouldn't get out of my head. I felt like I should do like an youtube video telling everyone my life, as a protest. But I am so fragile to criticism, weird stares and jokes. So I kinda controlled myself. Not everyone in the world know, only the closest ones.

    I did it as a convenience. My parents know, I could not hide it anymore (they were so pissed of) and they just pretended that I am not gay. Everytime I talk something related to homosexuality, they get mad, but their worst fear is letting my family know. So, who else would speak to me? My closest friends, who I needed to know if they would accept the way I am. Once my parents cannot know I told my friends, my paranoid mind asked them (friends) not to tell anyone else, for my own safety (i'm not independent).
     
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    hi :slight_smile: you definitely shouldn´t come out only because your mother wants you to :wink: she is entitled on her opinion but that decision is up to you :wink: only you can know when and if you are ready...if you don´t feel the need to tell everybody then simply don´t :wink: it´s about you and what you feel it´s right for you. Anyway, have a wonderful day :wink:)