Okay, so I came out to my mum as being transgender at the end of December and it went quite badly. She didn't take it well and in the end I just told her that it was a phase and I just preferred dressing more masculine because it made her so upset. Now it has came to the point where I can no longer hide this part of me due to the mental effect it is having on my well-being. I have written out a letter to her explaining how I feel and that I would like to go by male pronouns and it is ready for me to give to her at any minute. I just can't decide whether or not I should leave it for her when I go off to a camp for 9 days (it's just over a week away) as if I do that then it will give her time to really think it through and me time to prepare myself for returning home. In my opinion that would be easier for me but I'm not sure if I'm ready to have to go through what I did a few months ago again. I just don't know how much longer I can hide this part of me without it ending badly. I have already decided that I am not going to tell her in person because that is what I did last time and that was too upsetting for the both of us, so please don't suggest that I tell her in person. Any opinions or advice would be much appreciated.
It takes time for a family to accept such a big change. You know your mom best how long does it take her to calm down and process things? If you think it will take a week or more leave her the note before camp otherwise leave it for when you just won't be home a while, at a freinds ect... It might be a good idea to leave her some TED talks or other resources she can look at to help her process and understand how much pain you feel. I will say again it takes time, she will mess up your pronouns out of habit ( I did even when I was trying not to.) keep in persepective how long you've had to come to terms with your identity. Try not to take her struggle personally. (I know that's really hard)
