So to cut a long story short a little while back I came out to my family about being Pansexual and they didn't accept me for who I am and instead replied with "You aren't Pansexual as you have only ever brought girls home and you only watch porn with girls in it" I'm not sure what to do in this situation short of purposefully getting caught watching gay porn and purposefully getting caught doing the deed with a guy or someone who is a non-binary gender! Please advise me as to the course of action you would recommend as my family are the last people to accept me being pansexual! :bang: :bang: :bang: :bang: :bang:
Well, you can't really force your family to accept anything. That's their job. But you can still be firm about it. Whenever it comes up, insist that you're really pan, not straight. Don't force yourself to take home a guy if you don't have any feelings for him just to prove your family wrong. Eventually, hopefully, they'll get the hint. Even better: they learn to mind their own business and stop trying to tell you who you are. :rolle: Good luck, though. I get how frustrating it can be.
It's just no matter how many times I reiterate that I am Pansexual they always respond with the same thing "You can't be Pansexual because you only go out with women and watch porn with women in it!" It is so frustrating because I could turn round to a friend and tell them I'm pan and the worst I get is a snide and possibly sarcastic "Oh so what you screw pans" to which I reply with an equally sarcastic "Yes and I'm also bisexual because I love to stick it up the exhaust of a harley" but with my family they just straight up refuse to accept I am anything other than straight as a bloody ruler!
You have told them, it's their problem if the don't want to accept it. Just live your life and after some time they will learn to live with it even if they don't accept it.
Why does it matter? I ask that in the sincerest way possible - it's a genuine question. It's really none of their business. Sure, it's annoying to be told that you aren't who you say you are, but them insisting you're straight isn't going to prevent you from dating men or watching gay porn or anything. It actually sounds like they're in denial, haha. There's not much you can do other than be persistent; you can't change somebody's mindset just like that. It does take time, especially if they were raised to think that certain way. As long as they aren't mistreating you because of it. If they are, you need to tell them to piss off.
