My mum thinks I'm straight & keeps asking if I have a boyfriend?? :-I

Well, here's how I would go about it. Just gently start a conversation with her about it. Something like "So..have you ever had any gay friends?" I know that kinda sounds like jumping the gun, but I feel like that would get her to open up. Just my idea.

 

Hi there and welcome to EC

What I did to test my mother's waters was to bring LGBT issues whenever they were represented in the media, such as: ''Same-sex marriage is legalized in all states of the US''. Just say it loudly as if you were reading something. My mom will always give comments on whatever I have to say so that's how I did that. I don't know how your mom is, it depends on the person.

Or you could make up some story of your ''Friend'': ''Oh that friend (girl) of mine now has a girlfriend.''

After I knew how she thought about LGBTQ+ people, I started to leave comments like: ''How would you feel if I were to marry someone fo the same-sex?''

But I will tell you this, you can't stop her from assuming you are straight without outing yourself for a tiny bit. I mean it in a way that you don't nessecarily have to scream: ''I AM GAY'', but y'know, a bit questioning about it.

I will also tell you this: It will take time, don't expect your parents to do this 180 degree turn once you revealed yourself for a tiny bit. It comes gradually.

However, I don't know how your relationship with your mother is and to what degree you and her have a deep connection.

I hope this helped at least a tiny bit hah

Have a great day and thanks for sharing!

 

Welcome :smilewave

My mother assumes that I'm straight too and my aunt always asks me if I have a boyfriend, so I can relate to that.

What I started to do (even though slowly, so they didn't realize yet), is put the bisexual pride flag as background on my laptop and stuff like that. My family knows I'm very tolerant though and they also don't know that flag, so they won't necessarily stop thinking that I'm straight, but I don't know how you and your parents are.
You could also speak about celebrities you like and make sure you mention more female ones.
If you feel confident enough for that, you could respond to her questions with: "Why do you automatically assume it has to be a guy? Couldn't I technically fall in love with girls too?" I don't know if you're ready for that though but maybe you can try that later.

The thing is that it's normal for people to assume you're straight, especially when you don't "look" gay, what's very annoying of course. So the only way she would really stop would be a coming out. But you shouldn't do that before you're ready.

 

Bring up the LGBT topic in one of your conversations. See what she says about it.
Then you will figure out if she is homophobic. If she is, its best not to come out now and just deal with it that she is asking these annoying "do you have a boyfriend?" questions.

 

Hi!

Maybe you can just tell her that those questions make you feel uncomfortable ¿? That whenever you are in a couple you will tell her ¿?

Do not come out until you feel ready, there is no hurry!

Or at least, that's what I did.