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Telling family tomorrow

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by StrataScribe, Feb 27, 2009.

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  1. StrataScribe

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    So after many sleepless nights and years of agonizing, I have finally come to realize there is only one solution to my problems. Initially I hoped I would be able to come out to my family one by one (starting with my aunt) but I have discovered just how difficult it truly is. I also refused to come out via a letter as I felt it's far too impersonal (just my own personal opinion) but I've come to realize two things.

    I cannot go to my family like they belong on a pecking order nor can I find the right words. So after much deliberation I have decided to follow the suggestions I recieved right here from EC. I have written my entire family (parents, sis and aunt) one long letter which I will present to them as a group tomorrow afternoon. I will tell them I have something I want them to read and excuse myself from the room to wait for their reaction.

    I have attached said letter and was just looking for some words of encouragement from you all. EC has truly been a second home to me and I owe all the great individuals on here for helping me find the courage I need to embark on this new and frightening as hell chapter in my life.

    The letter itself took surprisely very little time to write and I only had to stop about fifty times because my tears blurred my vision. But it says everything I've always wanted to say and no matter what, tomorrow is my own personal D-Day...........


     
    #1 StrataScribe, Feb 27, 2009
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    That was AMAZING. Hope everything goes well! :thumbsup:
     
    #2 Bryan44, Feb 28, 2009
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    Wow, i honestly just teared up heh. Ill wall post you why :slight_smile:

    Good Luck though! (*hug*)
     
    #3 Greggers, Feb 28, 2009
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    The letter is great - good luck, and let us know how it goes.
     
    #4 tm74, Feb 28, 2009
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    Good luck! Thats a great letter. :thumbsup: Tell us what happens.
     
    #5 EM68, Feb 28, 2009
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    That's a great letter, I was deeply moved by it. Best of luck for tomorrow, hope it all goes well
     
    #6 Davo, Feb 28, 2009
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    It's a great letter. Let us know how it goes!
    I'm sure they will understand! (*hug*)
     
    #7 Filip, Feb 28, 2009
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    Excellent letter. If they take it well - and I'm confident they will - don't forget to thank them for being such a kick-ass family. :slight_smile:

    Lex
     
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    Matthew, absolutely soul wrenching. God, I wouldn't add a thing. You have our strength and love to go with you today. Walk Proud, We love you.......
     
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    ok so after I wiped my tears I had to write and wish you all the best of luck. Coming out is one of the hardest but also freeing things you can ever do. I am so proud for you and that you are someone in our community. Even if things dont go very smoothly at first just be patient and most things will work out. Be prepared for questions and you sound like you definately have the courage and ability to answer them. Wishing you the best of luck from the bottom of my heart! -Jen
     
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    Totally perfect. I wish you all the luck in the world!
     
    #11 Lizz K, Feb 28, 2009
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    That's a really good letter. You explain a lot of things in it. I HOPE ALL GOES WELL!!! :slight_smile:
     
    #12 Sarah, Feb 28, 2009
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    Straight from your heart, and I would imagine right into theirs.

    Good luck!
     
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    god, that's brave :jawdrop:
    good luck!
     
    #14 Kizz, Feb 28, 2009
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    That's such a strong and heartfelt letter, I hope all goes well for you. good luck!
     
    #15 Phantasma, Feb 28, 2009
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    best of luck...give us updates.
     
    #16 BitterEdge, Feb 28, 2009
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    God I just teared up. THANKS A LOT! Just joking, but good luck with your family. If it's rough at first, keep hope, it will get better. I wish you the best, you're in my thoughts!
     
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    Great letter! Good luck. Let us know,we care!
     
    #18 Mickey, Feb 28, 2009
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    that was an impressive letter. very heart-felt. i loved it. hope it all goes well! good luck!
     
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    You guys^^ go to his I'M OUT!! post. it's even better news....
     
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