Need some advice

There are many ways to find a boyfriend, there's is through friends, through the internet (i.e dating sites and such), and also gay social/support groups.
As to your family, the only advice I can give is to only do it when you are 100% comfortable/ready to make that jump

 

Hello, welcome to EC!! :smilewave

What are your parents views on gay people? Do you think that they would understand and be accepting?

 

you could get a friend to open up the subject to them, not specifically mentioning you, just to test the waters so to speak

 

Take your time and be sure you're ready. And most of the guys I know wouldn't care at all about your MS btw

 

Hey welcome to EC guy. It's probably one of the most asked questions on the site and always a good one. But there is no one set answer just like no two people are alike. It depends on many things. Firstly as has already been mentioned, make sure you are/I] gay and not just going through a mid teen phase. You will know the answer to that better than anyone. Secondly in regards to your parents. How well do you communicate with them? Are you a tight and loving family? How comfortable do you feel about talking regular sexual topics with them or do you? Has your Dad or Mom ever done the 'birds and the bees' talk with you. A whole lot depends on you and how comfortable you are. Fill in some of the blanks here and then we can go from there on how to advise you. OK?

 

Different like you are sexually attracted to guys and have no sexual interest in girls?

 

OK, have you got any brothers or sisters that you have or can talk to first?

 

Sorry, I've been running around the site here answering messages. Ok, do I understand that you have no close friends to talk to? Do you want to do this on this forum or do you want to talk to me on my wall? Doesn't appear to many around tonite. Up to you.

 

we've discontinued this on the forum...

 

Colby go to your wall for my msg....Keith

 

I doubt you're going to find a quality or long lasting relationship with another guy if you aren't out or at the very LEAST accepting of yourself. It's unfair and unrealistic. I only say that because having to hide your OWN sexual orientation can be jarring but having to hide someone elses or make them hide it can be far more difficult.

However, if you give some slack, and seek someone else like you or straight acting, you'll have a shot. And as for coming out, you can write a letter. Or you can just blurt it out. Do what you feel most comfortable with.

And don't let your brother give you shit either. Just because he uses the word fag or queer doesn't mean he'll hate you. You are his brother. Sounds like your brother just has some issues of his own. He's probably just taking things out on others.

 

I just wanted to update this post. Last nite was pretty quiet cause all you guys and gals were on the town so Antarranger and I had quite a long talk. He was more comfortable with talking on our walls so that is what we did. Antarraanger, I hope this doesn't put you in too bright a light but you are one amazing individual and will be an inspiration to everyone here.

This young fellow has Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, which obviously is a disease that attacks the muscles and is responsible for poor muscle control. He has undergone surgery and had a spinal fusion and is confined to a motorized chair. He is bathed and helped out in everyday life by an aid, and because he missed so much school for surgeries, he is now home schooled. He lives in the US. He is gay. In talking with him, I'm sure he has no doubts. He is a very solid and confident young man in his sexuality and even said he thinks his aid is 'cute'. We are working together for him to come out to his parents and he has decided he wants to write them a letter much the same as some of you have done so we will be working on that.

He just wants to have a boyfriend and be happy in his life.

Makes our troubles look pretty small in the realm of things, doesn't it. I think this young man is the most amazing, and I say this with all sincerity, human being I have EVER met in my 57 years on this planet and I am awed and inspired by him.

By coming here, he has given each of us the chance to walk with him and support him and befriend him. Who knows, maybe he'll find the guy of his dreams at EC.

ANTARRANGER.....The epitomy of inner strength and human resolve. I love this kid....Keith

 

First of all welcome to EC! :smilewave This site helped me a lot over the past few months. Like Asteroid has said coming out is not a race. Take your time when the time comes you will know. I used a letter when I came out to my parents last week and it worked out well. There is no right or wrong way to write it. Just write it from the heart. If you need any help or advice we all can help you. That's what we are here for.

Keith in the short time you have been here you have made such a huge impact. Thanks!