How to know someone gay/bi?

Whenever I want to know if someone is gay or bisexual, I have a fool proof sign I always look for. Here's the method for seeing it:

1. Ask the person in question, "Are you gay?"
2. The person says, "Yes."
3. The person is gay.

It's awesomely effective.

 

I usually top them. If they stay hard the whole time, that usually means they're gay.

...OK, lame joke aside...

You don't know. Ever. You might get hints. You might get clues. You might get suspicions. But you won't know until they tell you. And sometimes, not even then. Because people lie. Either out of fear, or maliciousness, or they might not have even admitted to themselves that they're gay. Num's way is pretty much the only way.

Lex

 

You can read body language to sometimes get a good reading. See what happens when the topic of "girlfriends" comes up. Do they suddenly become very quiet, do they just leave, do there eyes start shifting around the room looking for an escape, do they change the subject? This works for many subjects, not just "girlfriends". If you learn how to read peoples body languages then your gaydar goes up ten points.

Just dont try and judge someone without actually getting to know them. There is really next to no way to tell someone is gay by just looking at them or having a brief casual conversation. It will always be hit and miss that way, never always hit. The only exception here are the kinds of people that you can tell are gay from a mile away, but why would you need to figure out that person is gay in the first place anyways. So if you really want to know, become friends with the person. Get to really know them.

 

If they're hiding, try not to force them out. That would break your trust.

 

Well get to know him then!
I can hardly say that though. There are people who I know who are gay, but I've never spoken to them.

 

Then it's early days yet. All you can do is get to know him better, and try not to get your hopes up too high. Because if he's straight, he can still be a great friend, and who couldn't use more of those?

Lex

 

yea, just get to know him. if hes not, hes not. if he is, score!