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Not Accepting of myself!?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Alexrocks1253, Jun 10, 2016.

  1. Alexrocks1253

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    I came out to myself and my family as Pansexual in May, but each day I become more and more unaccepting of myself.:icon_sad::bang:
     
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    I know how you feel. I have an extremely hard time accepting what I am
     
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    Well, why do you think you're having such a hard time with it?
     
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    Same here, probably because my mom isn't
     
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    It has been hard because of my religion and fam i can't pursue a relationship with someone who is not a guy

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    So alexrocks1253 what has changed in your life since you came out, are there any limitations now that wasn't there before. I am going to do a paper for myself as to what being gay means to me, and hoe being gay has changed me, and those around me. Maybe u could do something similar
     
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    All that's happened is that it has made my life a lot sadder.
     
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    I'm very sorry to hear that
     
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    Why do you think you feel sad having come out? Usually people feel relief that they don't have to hide. Have you not felt like that?
     
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    When I came out to my friends I remember feeling so weirded out because they seemed more accepting of me than I was, and even now I still feel this way. I think that often accepting something about ourselves is one of the hardest things to do because it is so personal.
    What I found helpful was thinking about all the things that were making me feel like I was drowning, all the things I was worried about, and the reasons why I was feeling panicked about liking women - in other words, all of the obstacles I had in the way of accepting myself.
    I found that a lot of these were things I couldn't control, like that other people's perceptions of me would change and that I might be seen in a certain way, or were things that were deeper personal issues, like existing low self-esteem.
    The obstacles you may find within you might differ from mine, but I found that unmasking these thoughts that I wasn't really even aware I was having really helped open my eyes as to what I needed to do in order to fully come to terms with and accept who I am.
    I'm not sure if this helps you in any way, but it might be worth giving this a go?
    Sending hugs to you. x
     
    #10 sunnyskies, Aug 24, 2016
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