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Trying to communicate with with that I like men and may be bi/gay

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Canesyes, Jun 16, 2016.

  1. Canesyes

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    I am 48 wm, married 20 years and have an attraction to men. This has been building for 2-3 years and has intensified. I think about it often with thoughts of sleeping with a man, visiting gay areas like San Diego and Palm Springs.
    I have expressed to my wife a few times in bed that I would love to have sex with a guy one day inviting herbto watch. She would never believe me, bit a few times I think she may have believed me. She said she would leave me and I backed off. I need to know what to do?
    I dont think this is a fantasy. I have kids to consider and family which frightens me
     
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    Hey

    There is a "later in life" forum for guys like us. I just came out to my wife at 55. Try starting a thread there. There are several posters going through the same sort of thing.

    See you there...
     
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  3. Tomás1

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    Canesyes, no one can tell you what to do. Only you can pick the best path. I suggest finding a trusted counselor skilled in glbtq issues to help you.
     
  4. Canesyes

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    I appreciate the advice, i laid in bed naked with my wife tonight and had no sexual aeousal with her, i had thoughts of men