Initially wanted to tell the world - and now what ?

I just came out last week and I know exactly how you feel! I have told maybe 5 people so far - well there are about 15 if you count the people in the Veterans Pride support group I went to today.

I, too, am confused and hoping this forum will help. I am what someone termed a "late in life lesbian" - I am 68. My family? I have 3 sisters and that is it. I am trying to operate at this time on what they called when I was in the Ar,y a 'need to know basis".

And it is very hard.

Kateles

 

every time i see someone who i think might be gay i somehow want to let them know, for absolutely no reason. i don't understand why, i guess its because i'm new to it, lonely and want friends. but i don't, cause i'm shy, haha.

 

Yes!

What drives me especially crazy is one second I'll be so absolutely certain I want to tell somebody, like my best friend or one of my brothers, and just within the amount of time it would take me to get my phone to call them, I pull a complete 180 and stay quiet.

I completely empathize with coming out at work. Even though I know my bosses and coworkers wouldn't be jerks about it, there would be comments and teasing, not to mention a whole bunch of questions since they know I've dated guys before.

This also hits close to home. I've had a kind of rocky relationship with my dad, but ultimately I know he loves me. He's seen how sad I've been lately, and he says all he cares about is me being happy and that he'll do anything he can to help with that. Then again, he's made some comments about the LGBT community before that make me a little wary. I also have this weird complex that he loves me only because I am his daughter - his flesh and blood - and not for being me. And if he doesn't really love me for me, what's going to happen when I come out and am not his perceived version of what his daughter should be? Does that make sense?