I am wondering if I should come out basically. I am 17, and socially in a very difficult situation as I'm at the end of my before-last year. I think I am bi, maybe gay, but I don't want to put myself in a box, but I also want to be clear to others. For me I am who I am, and I love a person on their personality, not a gender. Up until now though, I have been mostly attracted to boys, I think 80/20 for boys/girls. Summer break is in 3 weeks here in the Netherlands, and I am wondering what to do. If I would come out, this would be in the summer break, cause before everyone is full of testweeks and I don't want to distract them. I have a few good friends, and I want them to know, but I don't know when I am ready? The best thing I want is for them to just come up to me one day and say "hey, I know you're gay, it's fine" but that won't happen, but I don't know if I'm ready to go for it? Any tips on how to know if you're ready for it? Thanks
I would make sure if you're fully ready to tell people first, and that the people are fine with LGBT. I came out to only one of my best friends at first, and it was super nervewracking, but they were awesome and I felt so relieved afterwards. Just come out in the way that makes you feel most comfortable I guess Good luck!
I've told a couple of friends. They were fine with it. I did because the time felt right. You need to be sure you're ready. It probably won't be a big deal, but it's still nice to be prepared. I knew I was ready because I was tired of hiding it to everyone, but I guess it differs from person to person. I wish you the best of lucks.
