A little about what is going on with me right now.....

Congrats. Lol BasketCase...

 

Kudos

I thought about getting a counselor today. It crosses my mind from time to time when things inevitably come full circle and I find myself back at square one. Others have suggested that I talk to one as well.

I can either go through my school, or my employer. :bang:

 

I can relate a lot to what you say. My last two years in High School were pretty much what you described: Going to school - Studying at home - Sleeping.

I'm glad you are positive about you're future .

 

Good luck, man.
It's always better to have someone to talk about it to, I've only learned that recently.

 

I'm really glad you've come to that realization and decided to do something for yourself.

I had a similar experience. Things got so bad that I HAD to see a counsellor through work, and thankfully I laid it all out for them. A) I was gay and didn't want to admit it (I was married with two kids) and B) I had an addiction - which I was using to avoid 'A'.

Addiction counselling and a 12 step group has helped me with 'B' (and depending on how serious your weekend drinking was, perhaps that would be of benefit to you too), and EmptyClosets along with my counsellor helped me deal with 'A'.

I wish you all the best, and will say that if you want to chat with me one on one, send me a private message. Good luck!

 

Slow and steady my friend ....I am glad that you found an objetive party to share your thoughts with it can be hard being stuck in your own head! There may be people who you think will react badly and they might...but in my experience at least it was never as bad of a reaction as all the possibilities my brain could come up with. Sometimes your thoughts can be your worst enemy. One at a time and with each person who reassures you it gets easier becaue you know you have support behind you! Just a suggestion not judging (as I drink myself on occassion) tone down the drinking I drank alot before I came out and it only made the depression worse! (and I broke my ankle drunk and was in a cast for 6 months pretty hard to hobble up and meet the ladies LOL) It can only be an escape for so long but you need to show others who you really are! Also eventually the health aspect will catch up with you. Best of luck -Jen

 

Bravo! Coming out at 25 after beating myself up for misguided religious beliefs, I can say that it'll take you some time to unravel everything. But, you have to keep at it, and if you do, it'll be glorious.

Also, try to thin down the drinking. It'll help if you look at things with a clear head.

 

Very similar to my story - religion was a major part of me supressing what I am - that an trying to live up to other peoples expectations.

As for you basketcase, I was 34 when I started my journey. Talking to someone else is going to help you unravel your own mind - I found that having someone you can talk to, helps you work through your own thoughts.

Take care, and remember this - there's no hurry... go at your own pace, as and when you feel ready.

 

Hey, yeah it does sound good that you are talking to someone and taken that step in order to discuss your issues. I was 25 when i came out in counselling too.

 

kudos to your seeing a councellor. im sure youll work through any problems.

 

Good for you. I'm glad you went.

I know for me - I got to the point where I had almost nothing left to lose, and 'my way' of doing things wasn't working very well any more. So asking for help and following suggestions came easier for me as a result. Hopefully you're in the same place, and that this is a real turning point in your life.

My hope is that you'll be amazed before very long at how much better life can be!

 

Wow. Is that a new quote in your sig Jim? It reminds me of a line from V For Vendetta where the lady doctor/scientist is dying and it goes something like this:

"Is it too late to apologize for all I've done?" - Doctor

"No, it's never too late my dear." - V

"When I die, will it be painful V?" - Doctor

"I already killed you while you slept." -V

"Oh, thank God." - Doctor

 

i've always seen my sexuality as a problem, even though i know it isn't.
im glad your coping really well, and welcome to the ec

 

Hi there!

Welcome to EC too Mr. 4 Posts.

 

getting out there and trying to make things better for yourself is the first step... and they are not all easy steps, but you are correct to be happier with yourself you need to let those around you, who you love, who you are... you may not get great reactions but you can take pride in yourself knowing that they know the real you... good luck and welcome to EC