I came out yesterday to my hetero husband... I am now having so much confusion. I know that I only like woman now and I am accepting it. But i almost feel regret telling him because now we are separating(civilly) and we have a three year old together so I am having a lot of guilt for being the reason our family is separating... I am also having a lot of guilt for him hurting. I just don't know. Is it normal to flip flop on Comig Out? I am so lost and confused.
Having not come out myself I don't speak from experience. But here's how I see it. Given that you have a family with a young child I can't imagine that you would've come out if you weren't 100% certain of yourself. It is natural to feel guilty but chances are you would feel 10 times more guilty and unhappy if you chose to not come out and live a lie for the rest of your life. Your act of coming out is a step to greater happiness. Good luck.
Thank you so much! And yes It was very hard to come out to the few people I did. My marriage wasn't the best as it is, but I do feel guilty about the changes and hurt I am causing. . I feel very relieved, I can't wait until I reach happiness. I think a therapist would definitely be beneficial. It's so hard to deal with since not many people I know understand what it's like. Many of the people I know are homophobic so I am very hesitant to fully come out..
Im sure most of us who have come out to a spouse have similar feelings. I just posted a thread in ChitChat about it actually.
