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How to cope with not being able to come out

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by rycoy, Aug 11, 2016.

  1. rycoy

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    Im a boy, but I can't tell anyone else and it feels a little awful. I don't know how to feel good.
     
  2. SHIELDAgentAlex

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    Well, darling, as you can tell, EC is full of people just like you. You're around friends when you're here.

    Also, if I may, why can't you tell anyone?
     
  3. YuriBunny

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    You can make lots of friends online who only know you as a boy. ^^

    (*hug*)
     
  4. Lambeau

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    A lot of people here are in similar situations. I've only been here a very short time, but I already feel better and happier by being a member of EC. I've posted freely about being gay. I've shared what my ideal boyfriend is like. I've been more free than I've ever been in my real life. I'm completely closeted outside of these forums, but it feels good for once to just be me. I know it's not like being out in real life, but maybe for the time being you can find a similar sense of joy by just being a member of EC.
     
  5. rycoy

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    I've tried before and people didn't like it.
     
  6. SHIELDAgentAlex

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    Were they violent, or bullying, or just rude? Were they family, parents, friends, or random jackasses?
     
  7. rycoy

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    People stopped talking to me and my friends always acted weird and my boyfriend dumped me. My mom threatened to kick me out or send me to a mental hospital so that was that....

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    I'd like that!
     
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  8. Austin226

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    I'm in the same boat and it definitely sucks, but sooner or later you'll find people who accept you and love you for who you are. Patience is so difficult sometimes, but it'll pay off!
     
  9. SHIELDAgentAlex

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    Ah. Well then, I understand, especially about the mother bit. If it was just random jackasses being jackasses, I'd tell you to fuck 'em and do your own thing.

    Don't…don't actually fuck people who're transphobic towards you, though.
     
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    Don't feel like you have to come out. Just live your life and be happy with whoever you are with. Outside of our community, people don't feel the need to disclose your personal and private interests, so don't feel pressured. Enjoy life, and keep your private life private and be happy. :slight_smile: