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discrimination at the mall.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by amberger, Mar 17, 2009.

  1. amberger

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    so last weekend, i went to the mall with my girlfriend. We got there around 11:30 and we walked around for awhile, holding hands and holding each other around the waist. Some boys came up and asked if we were bi. We ignored them. And then two ladies in the bathroom were talking about us and looking. We got alot of looks that day. And then we sat on the bench and a cop approached us and said she clocked in around 11 and knew what time we got there. Then she said that we couldn't just walk around 'showing public affection'. that's so wrong, all the other straight couples get to walk around the mall and hold hands, and kiss. Why is it so wrong because i want to? we ended up leaving and walking down the street. It was pretty cold too. We aren't welcome there, i guess. I heard that i can report the cop, and i want to. I don't know where, and how, and to whom i should tell about this. that can't be legal. I mean, we were shopping.
     
  2. SAGUY84

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    Not sure how you can report them in the US, but its definitely an option.


    Personally i would have just kissed right in front of the cop. If your not breaking any laws, thers nothing they can do about it.
     
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    If it had been me in that situation, I'd probably have done something smart-alecky and unwise like look the cop in the eye and calmly say "Pretend I'm a boy. That's acceptable, right?" I don't know about anything legal you can do - wrong country, I'm not aware of laws regarding that sort of thing in the US.
     
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    I'm not a fan of public affection but it should be one rule for everyone.
     
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    Yes you can file a report because that is outright discrimination. I would go to the security office and file a complaint against the mall cop that harrased you and your gf and I would also go to the mall's main office (all malls have them, just a matter of looking). If either of those routes lead nowhere I would then go to something like your local aclu chapter and see if they can help you. (I hope this helps)

    Congrats to you though for keeping your head about you and not doing anything rash, and for having the courage to have small pda's with your gf. :slight_smile:
     
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    That is so ridiculous. That woman pushed her own personal views on you I can guarantee that it is not mall policy. I would report her to the head of the Mall administration and even the better business beareu. There are no laws in your state that allow that type of discrimination. It may be a pain to file a complaint but please do if for nothing else but to stop it from happening to any other couple. I would also threaten to report it to a lawyer or the media. No mall would want their business seen as discriminatory Our money is green too! if all else fails write a letter to the editor of your local news paper. if I lived in Ohio and saw that I sure as heck would do my business elsewhere. Sorry this happened to you, I myself have encountered some serious discrimination while in public with my GF but never from an employee and it is never ok!
     
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    fight the good fight. id have waited till the women got out of the bathrooom then u could have made out with your gf in front of them. when u finish that, give them a smile and walk away. perfect recon.
     
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    Or you could have quoted Rent -- "Hey mister... She's my sister."

    xD!
    Probably wouldn't help your cause though.
    In all seriousness, report him in anyway possible.
     
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    its totally wrong and is sickening really as they wouldent dare do it to anyone else :frowning2: the problem is if you try to push it further they might ban you for beeing a "trouble maker " i know it doesent apply to all people but ive always said give them a uniform and they think theyre allmighty.

    my advice would be to just go back and if anythings said again just ignore them besides ive not been to the usa but i thought from what ive seen on tv :S all teenagers just hang around in malls lol sitting there looking at the old people blowing bubblegum....ok ive seen to much tv but still its a point i think i dunno ive confused myself sorry lol.. anyway im on your side :slight_smile:
     
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    that makes me so mad... i mean i dont live in the US but ive been there and i saw many people holding hands and what not. i mean come on people its 2009 we need to get over homophobia.
    grats on keeping your cool tho =D
     
  11. The Enigma

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    How much public affection were you showing? As long as you're not turning the mall into a softcore porno, it should be fine. But in all honesty, there may be malls with rules regarding public affection. Before reporting him/her, you should check them out so that you know that you yourself weren't in the wrong. And if there aren't call her on it. I'd definitely do it.

    Mall security is usually just people in uniforms with no law enforcement experience. They sure as hell can't do shit to you. They're basically just there to remind people of security. They have to call the cops for most problems anyways. It's a good thing I'm so big, most wouldn't dare that with me. (!):roflmao: I've never once had an issue with mall security. And I get the weirdest stares when I go to Bath and Body.

    And it's strange Adam...I wonder the same thing--and I'm American. Lol Some do go there and hang out all day...and I don't get the point of it either. It's rather weird. Though, with some guy cliques, it can be to pick up a GF.
     
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    thats the difference between the sunny usa and wet uk i go to a mall and hang out i might meet the person of me dreams looking cool ... here people will think im beeging for money in a dirty run down shopping centre thats cold and smells lol
     
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    what a shit of the police force.
     
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    that's so messed up.
    people should mind their own business. like seriously. ugh
     
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    I think it's none of their business what you are doing with your girlfriend. I mean, holding hands is just so normal, I dont understand what the whole fuss is about.
     
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    Good thing that never happened to me! I don't know enough to just shut up and walk away. I give you a lot of credit for doing so.
    And...I would most definitely report the ignorant bitch.
     
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    Wow...that really is awful. I'm so sorry you had to experience that blatant homophobic discrimination.(*hug*)

    There's only one thing for it! Stand up for your rights girl....this has to stop!
    [YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mu9xx5Ri278[/YOUTUBE]
    (Ok thats suppose to be motivational...lol...I'm a loser)