Coming out to mum and Gran and rest of friends on Saturday 27th thought on letter

Hi, first of all, it takes a lot of courage and strength to 'come out' whichever way you do it so don't feel that you have to apologise for doing it in a letter. It's common to feel some guilt because you may feel that you have been keeping a dark secret from your loved ones but try not to focus too much on that. Think about why you did it. Was it really your decision to keep a secret or was it external pressures that pushed you into a hidden corner? Anyway, I'm certain you - like most of us- never intended any malice or harm to anyone by being 'in the closet'

I told my mum by letter and though I didn't get the response I wanted, I got the response I expected. Basically, I don't think it would have made any difference to the outcome and it probably won't for you. You seem confident that your mum will be supportive so whichever way you feel comfortable telling her will be the best way. Do what feels right for you.

As for coming out to your friends over the weekend, my advice would be to try and be aware of the situation. During the day you will be at your college open day, coming out to your closest loved ones and opening up to your friends. It is going to be a day all about your positive future and will be full of emotion from excitement and happiness to fear and back again.
If your friends are as supportive as I hope they are then it's easy to let the whole thing get out of control or become overwhelming so my advice is just to give yourself a few breaks through the day/night. Take some time to collect your thoughts and focus if you need it. Whether it all goes brilliantly or it all seems to go wrong, there's a chance you're going to want a bit of emotional release and a bit of a cry. Let it happen, just try and make it on your terms so you don't have anything to regret later.

Anyway, hope it all goes well for you. Have a happy weekend

 

Very nice. I always find these letters really sweet for some reason. I guess it's the simplicity of it. Words seem to get in the way when you try say this stuff out-loud. Good luck!

 

Good luck. I hope all goes well for you!

But always remember, you have nothing to be sorry about. You were born the way you are. There is nothing wrong with you. Some people may have issues with your sexual identity, but that's their problem, not yours.

And don't be sorry for deciding to come out to your mum and Gran. They should both love you unconditionally. But if either of them have a problem with it, it is THEIR problem, not yours. Don't let them reflect their issues back on you. You have just opened yourself up in a tortuously uncomfortable and vulnerable manner by telling them about an extremely private and personal part of your life. It's hard enough to discuss sex with parents, let alone grandparents. To have to tell them that you are not heterosexual takes a ton of courage. I'm proud of you!

 

I'm with Quantumreality on this - you're a very brave and impressive young person and although the danger of being hurt by your mum and Gran is there, it's not stopping you from being true to yourself.
And the EC community is here for you when you need support and encouragement.

 

Congratulations, comingoutgay21! That's great news!

Best of luck in all things!

 

Great news. Stay happy and true to yourself and eventually you won't have to worry about coming out, you can just get on with being you.