Here is my proposed conversation. Please note my mother and father are divorced, so when I say Tracy, I mean my dads girlfriend. "Mom, Dad can you come here. Please don't bring your phones" (My mom is so addicted to her phone the house could be on fire and she would be texting) "L (my little sis) I will explain everything to you after I talk to mommy and daddy" "Mom, Dad, I have something to tell you. I'm gay" Option 1: all the questions. "How do you know?" "I know the same way you know you are straight" "Your too young" "Were you to young to know you were straight" (not meanly, just camly and nicely) "What did we do wrong" "Nothing. I was born this way" "It's a sin" "The Bible only talks about gay sex, which I have never done. And Jesus says to love everyone" Option 2, calm. "Ok, whatever, we don't care" "Dad, should I go tell Tracy (she won't be with us in the room) Option 3: homophobia (highly unlikely) I would stay calm, keep my mouth shut, then one of two things would happen l "Get out you ***" "I will, give me five minutes to pack and grab my meds, and my scooter and you will never have to see me again" I do that then scooter the 6 hour scooter drive to the local LGBT shelter "You are going to a camp" I say nothing, then as soon as they leave the house, I pack a bag, and run to the shelter. L conversations. "Hey sis, you know how people love each other, right?" "Yes" "And how most of the time boys like girls and girls like boys" "Yes" "Well I love girls" I don't care what she says next. She's 8 and might not understand. So do I have my bases covered?
It makes me sad that you've got to worry about how your parents will respond. I hope they take you in their arms and say nothing changes for them. And if the worst case scenario comes true ... I just hope it doesn't. As for your little sister, she'll hopefully just say "OK" and get on with being your little sister.
I do too. I highly doubt I will need to run or get kicked out. And as for sis, the only problem is she was pretty much raised in the church as a baby and toddler. I wasn't. So hopefully I can explain how being gay is NOT a sin to an 8 year old. Any tips?
Not having anything to do with churches of any kind, I don't understand their obsession with homsexuality at all. It's almost like they haven't moved past their own adolescent fear of not being straight. And if the church is pushing the anti-gay message to small kids, it must be a really weird church. Maybe just trust your sister to be open and honest and maybe even ask her about her closest friends and how much she likes them as a kind of comparison. But keep it at her level and keep the message short and simple. Don't confuse her with too much information. Good luck.
Given your sister's age she'd probably be open enough to not really care despite what she may or may not have heard. If something happens though you say your parents will most likely be supportive so they may be able to intervene if you talking to your sister fails.
I came out to my 8 year old niece and her bestie when they asked if I had a boyfriend, this is how the conversation went: "Do you have a boyfriend?" "No, but what if I have a girlfriend?" "OK, well do you have a girlfriend then?" "Not yet" "OK!" Then they ran off to play. I don't think you have much to worry about with your little sister, just keep it simple like in your example. 8 year olds get bored really easily and would rather have fun than have a lengthy discussion about who loves who and why. :lol:
Best of luck! You appear to have everything covered, but be prepared for mix of some or all of the above, or something completely different. e.g. they might say "we knew all along"! (*hug*)
I highly doubt they know. They have been trying to get me to "date" so I have a feeling hey have no idea.
Best of luck, you appear to have all possibilities covered. I hope everything goes well for you. Let us know how things go for you. May the force be with you. :starwars:
Your little sister probably doesn't know about homosexuality or if she does, I doubt she thinks it's a sin, it's in Christianity, but a lot of churches don't teach it outright to young kids, I don't think I was ever told directly that homosexuality was a sin in the bible(I guess it depends on your church). And I think your plan sounds pretty good, I hope it goes well for you, please post another thread when you do and share your experience !
