I had a conversation with my mum the other day and it ended in her saying they should "keep their original body" and "its unnatural" im gay and i wonder if she feels the same way about gays? And if so what should i do?
Hi Doughmaster Maybe you don't need to tell your mum that you're gay. As long as she doesn't catch you watching gay porn (which you shouldn't be watching) or catch you kissing another boy (which maybe you should be doing - sorry, only joking) then there's probably no reason why she needs to know. But maybe you could try telling her that you don't agree with her and let her know that you think it's fine to be transgender or even mention how hard it must be to be transgender. and maybe that's a way to mention sexuality in general which might give you the chance to let her know that you're gay. You know your mum, would she be impressed if you told her what you think and gave her reasons why? Or would she think you're just a smart arse? I love it when my kids tell me about something they've learned, especially if it's something I don't know. I hope this helps just a little bit. My mum is over seventy but she still says stupid things about gay people - I know she'll never change and so I just let her be.
Yeh ive told her my position about transgender people and that its fine but I don't know if im ready to tell her, Thanks for the advice!
Hi Doughmaster, I honest don't know what you should do because I don't know you or your mum. The only thing I really can do is tell you how impressed I am that someone your age has such easy acceptance of being gay and proud. Bravo! I am a father of two boys 16 and 12. I have such unconditional love for my kids - that has nothing to do with their personalities or behavior. It comes naturally from bringing them into this world as tiny infants that need me for their very survival. Your mum understands that love. I suspect that your mum will accept you and love you even if she struggles some herself. And you should expect her to have her own struggles with accepting the fact that she has a gay son. Parents want what is best for their children, and it scares them that gay people historically have had difficult lives, and they will worry about you. It doesn't mean they don't love you, it's just that parents have dreams of their own, like seeing you marry, have children, etc. Although gay people now are able to experience those things, your mum may have difficulty with that notion too. If you decide to come out to your mum, be patient with her just as you want her to be patient with you. You don't have to hurry, you've got plenty of time. I wish you luck!
