I dont know how to come out of the closet to someone who has feelings for you but doesn't know you are gay. I feel bad not telling her..
Hey silverdeer, You should only Come Out to people if you are comfortable doing so. Having said that, is she a good friend? You're right that it's not good to lead her on if she thinks she has a crush on you or something. You probably should just sit her down in private and tell her. If you want to do it kind of humorously, how about a knock-knock joke along these lines: You: "Knock. Knock." Her: "Who's there?" You: "*Your Name*" Her: "*Your Name* who?" You:"...is your Gay Best Friend!" I don't know if this helps. Good luck! Take Care!
Like Quantum said, don't lean her on if she has a crush on you. I don't know your current relationship with her, but if she's leading you on in that sense she's attracted to you, it's probably not a good idea to become boyfriend/girlfriend before you tell her.
I know what you mean. I feel guilty any time a man is attracted to me. It feels so natural to pretend to be something I'm not. (I'm not out of the closet yet). But if she is flirting with you, and you see it going too far, you might end up needing to tell her. I'm kind of in that situation now, myself. I hope things go okay for you. Rosa
Just tell her your not interested but you like her as a person. How close are you two? If you don't think she'll care, just let her know you're gay.