Hi. I'm a 14 year old lesbian who is terrified of my conservative Christian parents. I found out I was gay this year after years of confusion, and now I have a girlfriend! I'm really exited. I told a few friends at school about it and they were okay with it. I worry about my family though and in a way I feel bad for being gay, because if they find out I'll tear the family apart for sure. As far as I know, I'm the only LGBT member of the family. I don't plan to come out, at least not any time soon, but would it be okay to stop communicating with them once I become an adult? It feels selfish, and I still love my family dearly, but I worry for my well-being. If they find out about me prematurely, I could have humiliating or possibly violent consequences. If I come out as an adult, they won't want to talk to me anymore. They won't love me anymore, and I just want to hide away and pretend everything will be okay. Any advice?
I'm in a situation frighteningly simular to yours. The best thing you can do is accept yourself (which you have. Whether they accept you or not is their choice. I understand it's a shitty answer, but there's just not much you can do in a bind like this. Just make sure you're safe and happy, my friend
