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Mind Freak · 27th Mar 2009, 05:54 PM

My ex-bf randomly asked me if he was cute today. I was texting him and he just asks me "do you think i'm cute". He has a boyfriend and I don't see why he would ask me that now. We broke up in like september and only went out for like 2 weeks.

I don't know what to do. I don't think I'm going to answer at all.

I just feel like any answer I give could blow up and like mess me up.

If I say no, I'll hurt his feelings if I say yes I could have drama with the other guy if he happens to go through my ex's phone and I'm not out yet but my ex and his bf are and it could end up me being pushed out and I'm not ready. And I don't want to confuse my ex into thinking I still have feelings for him because I don't. Not at all. So should I just be like "I'm going to keep my opinion to myself?"

Maybe I'm just being paranoid but I'm kind of irked by this.

Sexiross · 27th Mar 2009, 05:58 PM

just say .... you alright...or how the getto says...you Iight . meaning your ok..put nothing dramatical

27th Mar 2009, 06:36 PM

I'd just ignore it. He should be asking his BF this.

Just Adam · 27th Mar 2009, 06:40 PM

44maybe ask him why you asking me this perhaps his bf has said something and hes feeling insecure and wants to know if you feel the same or if his bf is just an arse just ask him why he would ask you this and answer accordingly and just cos you think someones cute doesent give the partner a reason to start with you its not liek you act on it

hope all goes well

Paralyzer · 27th Mar 2009, 06:51 PM

I think you're being too dramatic...
"You're good looking, I guess, why would you ask that?"
Find out his motives and if they involve getting with you, shoot him down (nicely)
If his bf gets upset then w/e.. do you really care about him? Just ignore him and things probably won't blow up in your face.

Alex19 · 28th Mar 2009, 04:35 PM

ask him why hes asking you and not his boyfriend.

NathanHaleFan · 28th Mar 2009, 07:09 PM

yeah, don't respond at all regarding his appearance. Just inquire as to why he's asking you.

27th Mar 2009, 05:54 PM	#1
Mind Freak Hey y'all (It's a southern thang);D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Uh? Bi! Out Status: HOLY COW [at least 10] WHOLE PEOPLE! ;) Age: 20 Posts: 755 Join Date: Jul 2008	Why did he randomly ask me if I was cute? My ex-bf randomly asked me if he was cute today. I was texting him and he just asks me "do you think i'm cute". He has a boyfriend and I don't see why he would ask me that now. We broke up in like september and only went out for like 2 weeks. I don't know what to do. I don't think I'm going to answer at all. I just feel like any answer I give could blow up and like mess me up. If I say no, I'll hurt his feelings if I say yes I could have drama with the other guy if he happens to go through my ex's phone and I'm not out yet but my ex and his bf are and it could end up me being pushed out and I'm not ready. And I don't want to confuse my ex into thinking I still have feelings for him because I don't. Not at all. So should I just be like "I'm going to keep my opinion to myself?" Maybe I'm just being paranoid but I'm kind of irked by this. __________________

27th Mar 2009, 05:58 PM	#2
Sexiross Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: washington pa Posts: 762 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Why did he randomly ask me if I was cute? just say .... you alright...or how the getto says...you Iight . meaning your ok..put nothing dramatical

27th Mar 2009, 06:36 PM	#3
Defender Guest Posts: n/a Tournaments Won: 15	Re: Why did he randomly ask me if I was cute? I'd just ignore it. He should be asking his BF this.

27th Mar 2009, 06:40 PM	#4
Just Adam <3 Oscar Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Anyone with an open mind Location: My AV room Age: 24 Posts: 6,079 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Why did he randomly ask me if I was cute? 44maybe ask him why you asking me this perhaps his bf has said something and hes feeling insecure and wants to know if you feel the same or if his bf is just an arse just ask him why he would ask you this and answer accordingly and just cos you think someones cute doesent give the partner a reason to start with you its not liek you act on it hope all goes well __________________ Ninja Kick The Damn Rabbit !

27th Mar 2009, 06:51 PM	#5
Paralyzer Steven Brightside Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Friendly Out Status: A lot Location: Virginia Age: 21 Posts: 1,092 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Why did he randomly ask me if I was cute? I think you're being too dramatic... "You're good looking, I guess, why would you ask that?" Find out his motives and if they involve getting with you, shoot him down (nicely) If his bf gets upset then w/e.. do you really care about him? Just ignore him and things probably won't blow up in your face. __________________ every line on your face makes a beautiful maze for my eyes to trace

28th Mar 2009, 04:35 PM	#6
Alex19 who else but me? Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: homo Out Status: I think everyone knows by now Location: New York Age: 22 Posts: 1,309 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Why did he randomly ask me if I was cute? ask him why hes asking you and not his boyfriend. __________________ "It's always darkest before dawn."

28th Mar 2009, 07:09 PM	#7
NathanHaleFan de omnibus dubitandum Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: New Jersey Age: 21 Posts: 166 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Why did he randomly ask me if I was cute? yeah, don't respond at all regarding his appearance. Just inquire as to why he's asking you. __________________ We have common sense occasionally; occasionally you see it and you go, "LOOK! There is is." And then it's gone. --Lewis Black

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