So I dont know if anyone remembers (not that it matters) but I dated a guy I really like a couple months ago for about a month. He lives in California and I in Arizona. He eventually broke up with me saying that he hates how I can only see him every other weekend cus its a 4 hour drive and it hurts him to be apart. so for that we broke up. Now just a couple days ago he says he made a terrible mistake and he wants me back more then ever... Yes he hurt me but its not like he was an ass or anything, he jus hated the distance. I didnt jus say "ok great" I actually questioned him for a long time. reminding him that I can still only come down every other weekend. that I cant always be there etc etc and all he says is he was stupid and this is for real... so my question is (give him another chance)? should X's stay X's? im just really confused. well ill be back on tonight to look at responses thx guys Fox
Im so sorry about the color... something weird is happening with my account and stuff is getting messed up. well bye and sorry again Fox
The color is for April Fool's Day, so don't worry about that. There's one main piece of information missing here. What do YOU think? What do YOU feel? Back when you were (semi)together, what did you think of the relationship? Did you find it worthwhile? Was it just OK? How was the dumping? And how much have you "gotten over him" since then? Lex
In this case, it seems the breakup was of a matter that leaves you guys still on good terms. I think its entirlly(sp ) possible and maybe even not a bad idea to get back together if you both talk it over and come to an agreement about the distance. You need to make sure he knows what hes getting into this time, but other than that you guys might as well take a crack at it. If you had something once, its entirlley(sp ) possible you can have something again. Just learn from past mistakes.
Lol No it's April Fools program. It lasts only for today, HOPEFULLY. Its obnoxious, bare with it Fox. XD I'd let X's be X's. They become X's for a reason. Long distance relationships are a big hassle and often times never work out. Really, find some local boys. No need to stress out and long for someone who is not even within an hour or two's distance. It doesn't sound like your relationship is that developed either. I'm sure you can ffind someone else.
I'd give him one more chance, but no more than that. If he genuinely seems like he wants to make things change, then you could try taking him back, bt if he does the same thing again, don't give him a third chance.
You want to decide if you want to be in a long distance relationship. Also do you want to go back to him after he broke up with you? In addition, you want to talk to him to see where he is at and if he is prepared for having another long distance relationship.
To answer some of the questions here Yes I have gotton over him but really do like him, and Yes I myself want to try again but others are telling me its stupid. however after reading your guys responses I think im going to give him one more chance. I dont mind the long distance thing, I can manage I just hope he can this time around Fox
IF the relationship ended just because of the distance, it might be worth giving it another try IF and ONLY IF YOU want to. A long distance relationship is a bitch, but if you really love each other, you can make it work. My BF lives in Chicago, and I in Detroit (4 hours apart), and we're making a go of it. Best of luck to you! Communicate often. Text each other a few times a day. Call each other. Make plans to go places together. And, prepare your wallet for the sticker-shock of buying a lot of gas!
I agree with some of the other posts here that if you are also happy with a long distance relationship then its worth giving it another try. You have been clear with him that nothing has changed in terms of you only being able to see him every other weekend and I think that is important. Of course, if the relationship develops, you both need to consider where you want to go from there. My boyfriend lives in London and I live 3 hours drive away; we text regularly and talk on the phone lots. We try and meet up as much as we can, but as its going so well, we are talking about how to manage it longer term. Give him another chance... life's too short to miss out or to have regrets!
I think in this case it is ok for X's to get back together. Of course it hurt you, but it also hurt him. He has to know that even with the distance he has to put in his own part in the relationship. I would say give him another chance. He sounds like a good guy and was just hurting because he couldn't spend enough time with you, the one that he loves