Okay so I'm 13 and I identify as bi and I have been struggling a lot in the past year with my orientation I kinda thought I was ace for a while and then gay and it was very confusing and I have alot of LGBT/supportive friends which is great except I kinda got kicked out of my house a few weeks ago by my mom. And She was like throwing stuff around because I was watching this show called 'Faking It' about like this bisexual girl and she said it was inappropriate and stuff and said it was porn? And practically disowned me, And anyway, it was just really stupid but anyway I mean it's really not safe for me, and I'm honestly just really scared and I don't really have anywhere to go if I do get kicked out again and the thing is, I can't do that again not cause it's traumatising or anything (although it was, but that's not the point) but because I have this interview coming up to get into the Gifted program or whatever and I really want to get in but I can't do that if I get disowned again and honestly, I feel like coming out is to share a part of who you are with someone you care about but I don't. For her, I mean. I've, y'know, tolerated a lot of abuse from her and at this point I have no desire to share anything else with her or my dad, who only drops in every few years and leaves after a few days. But I don't wanna hide. So it's a slight contradiction. I don't wanna hide, but I also don't wanna come out. I don't really know why I'm getting so worked up because it's not like I can come out now even if I wanted to, because of the program. But I just feel like getting advice for that one day in the future, I guess. So I don't quite know what to do
I'm sorry you are having such a hard time at home. It sounds like your mother is very hostile towards LGBT people and will not easily accept you if you come out, but you shouldn't rule it out completely. I've known parents do a full 360 degree turn on the issue when faced with prospect of losing contact with their son/daughter. It doesn't sound like it will be safe to come out just yet, but when you are able to support yourself and live independently you may wish to come out then. Not coming out, ever, is really unhealthy and restrictive, so I would never tell somebody it's "okay", even though I have a lot of empathy for LGBT people in difficult circumstances. You list your profile as Britain, so if you find that you are disowned or thrown out again, you should contact Childline on 0800 11 11 (this is a free number) and they will help you. If it happens after you are 16, you may wish to contact the Albert Kennedy Trust for help/support Albert Kennedy Trust - Helping young LGBT people
Moving out at 18... geez for a 13-year-old that might as well be never. Hang in there and take Patrick's advice. And what you said about coming out being something you share with someone you care about... that is right on. If you are smart enough (Gifted maybe) to figure that out you will do OK. Stick around here and make some online friends. That is, if you can log in to EC without being accused of browsing "porn".
